1) We have fun and don’t take ourselves to seriously
We enjoy each others company and we enjoy having fun, we dance, we sing, we act silly, we take the piss out of each other. We are friends and we act like it.
2) We do our own thing
Just because we are married doesn’t mean we naturally like the same things. We allow each other space to follow our own interests.
3) We are loyal to each other
We have a deep loyalty to each other. And just knowing we have each others back makes our relationship secure and strong. We are a team and we tackle every situation as one.
4) We give each other high 5′s
Whenever we succeed in something we literally give each other a high 5 and we always make sure we compliment each other on a job well done.
5 )We respect each other
We treat each other with up-most respect. We may not always agree with each other but we do choose to respectfully disagree. We are our kids biggest mentors and by treating each other with respect we are teaching our kids to do the same.
6) We’re committed to work through the hard shit
We have loads of ups and downs but we are committed to each other and our marriage. Shits hard, life’s hard and sometimes we get thrown curve balls and sometimes we may even want to throw a ball at each others face *jokes* No seriously, sometimes it’s difficult being in a relationship with someone you live with day in, day out. But we decided a long time ago that we are committed to working through those times.
7) We trust each other
We trust our love and know deep within us that nothing would ever come between that. This has come with time, In my younger years (in my teenage-hood through to mid 20′s) I found it difficult to completely trust however as I grew and learnt and I realised that a mistrust can do more damage than anything. So over the years I have taught myself to completely trust our love and being loyal and treating each other with respect naturally results in trust.
8) We make time for each other
We make sure we ‘catch up’ we talk about our week, we talk about things we want to do. We just talk and talk.. Sometimes it’s difficult to fit each other in (especially when the kids are still little) but we make sure we do. Cracks start to surface the moment we don’t hang out for awhile.
9) We respect that we are different
He sometimes needs his man-cave time and I sometimes over-think things. We accept that we are very different from each other and we respect and honor that.
10) We’re best mates
Ben is my best friend and I treat him that way, I greet him with a smile and a hug like I would a friend. I share with him my deepest concerns like I would a friend. I share my happy moments like I would a friend. I talk to him using a pleasant tone of voice (mostly) *wink* like I would a friend.
What about you? please share what you do to keep your shit together.
P.S Happy Anniversary to my very best friend Ben. xx