When You Start Doubting Your Love

This post is written by an anonymous Imperfect Mum.

I met my now ex husband when I was just 16. He was genuine, kind, funny & sweet & I remember thinking back then I’m going to marry this guy! He was the first male in my life I could count on.

We were together for 14years which was for half my life. We had our ups & downs & we weren’t always heading in the same direction but we had common goals, understood each other & he was the person that knew me better than anyone. He could tell just at the sound of my voice if something was bothering me & was always there for me.

Things weren’t always smooth throughout the years we grew together & at times grew apart & at times wanted different things or didn’t agree in things in general. As with all couples we had moments of hurt, anger, pain & sadness as well as happiness & memories.

He was hard working, he never ever stopped even though at times I wished he would. He took on extra jobs & was always working, he’d come home exhausted & crash on the couch. I was lonely, I started getting angry because we never had “us” time. He was trying to build a future for us, get the things we wanted but there was no nice & fun times.

He got ill at first they thought it was a tumor thankfully it wasn’t but he had severe vertigo & a condition that had no cure. He’d be laid up for days so sick & dizzy & he got depressed & then started saying things like “just leave, go be with someone else. Someone who’s not sick all the time”. He said this on our wedding anniversary I was devastated. He only said it cause he wanted to see me happy & because he was down about this condition, I didn’t see that then….

His parents had never liked me, they often wouldn’t visit if I was home or excluded or ignored me. They let others know how they didn’t approve & I always had the feeling I wasn’t good enough & they had made that clear. I wanted him to stand up to them, I guess looking back I expected him to somehow change what they felt. It gnawed away at me & I began to resent my husband which was wrong.

We built our dream home & it was so beautiful but every break was work & more work. He wanted to make it perfect & have it how I wanted, I wanted us to enjoy life. We just focused too much on other things & not us. I yearned for romance, a nice weekend away time to ourselves.

I started making the fatal mistake of comparing us to other couples, I started questioning our love. We seemed more like friends than lovers & I thought that meant our marriage was doomed when now I see all couples that are together many years go through these phases.

I listened to advice from others who too made me think perhaps things weren’t ok with us, I let their opinions in. This can be good or bad at times cause they see one portion of your love story not the years & memories you’ve shared.

I started focusing on all the things we didn’t have rather than looking for all the positives. I created such an ideal in my mind of “how it should be” that I ignored these things.

I ended my marriage. I started a new relationship with someone else. We went to dinners, movies, the beach etc but it wasn’t the same sure it was exciting at first but something was missing. I missed my best friend, the man I could count on, the one who stuck by me through the years. That takes years to build!

One of my friends quickly snavelled up my ex husband soon after we split. She saw a good catch & he’s now successful & happy which he truly deserves.

He didn’t deserve the hurt I put him through. Things were never the same for me, I felt I’d lost the best thing that happened to me. I know everyone says it happens for a reason etc but that doesn’t make it feel any better.

We still talk, I still in a way turn to him for advice but it’s not the same. Part of me will always love him but I have to let that go & leave him be happy as he deserves.

Before you question your love, think if the little things over the years, the memories you shared as that is what you will be left with & sometimes that hurts.

Once you let something go, chances are you’ll never get it back.

Posted in:  Relationships & Marriage

22 Replies

Simmo Robertson



Thank you so much for sharing. Wow how we as humans get so caught up and forget what is right in front of us. And how we reflect afterwards and realize how wrong we can be. I truly hope you find that happy place again, I'm sure you will. But thank you for sharing what we all need to be seeing.


Beautiful and heart breaking


Thank you you so much for this. My husband and I were at this point not to long ago. And I had people telling me get rid of him it's ruined. Move on... I almost did until my boss told me I wish I had tried a little harder to make my marriage work I regret it to this day. Not giving up and not listening to people I cared about saying end it. Was the best thing I have ever done.

Clare Johnston

Thank you, what you have written gives such a brilliant perspective and message. Thank you for encouraging us to work through rather than give up and leave.

Belinda Thompson

Thats is also my story.. :( Wow. It hurts doesnt it? All the best

Wayne Wilson

God bless you.


I am in this place at the moment a lot of ppl telling me to rid myself of my husband making things hard


I am sending you so many prayers for happiness and peace of mind because I have never read such a true, raw, emotional message as you have written.


It's unfortunate that you have gone through this and my mother always taught me that hindsight can be vicious but to put a positive view on a terribly sad situation: in your sharing your story i am one of what i would assume to be many women that can say - thankyou, i needed to read this.
I've wanted to walk away so many times but when we get moments where we've achieved something we thought was out of our reach or we see our child doing something heart melting i'm always glad that i'm in that moment with him.
Whenever times get rough and i want to walk away - i'll remember this.


I wish my now ex husband had read this before throwing everything away


This is so very true. I get quite severely depressed and anxious. I worry all of the time my husband deserves better than a miserable wife. But then I see how much he loves me, I recently went away and when i opened my suitcase after arriving I found little packets of oreos and lollies stashed around my clothes.. Just in case I got the nibbles. I realised then that all the worry and the panic attacks won't go away, but when I'm at my worst I think of those little packets of biscuits and lollies and I know he loves me. Its those little sweet things that show he thinks of me and cares for me.


I got on here to pretty much write this story.
He loves me, like he really loves me.
But I am lonely, he works away.
We have a new baby.
I’m jelious of his life out traveling the country while I’m stuck at home/lockdown/homeschooling!
I want him to find someone fun & better then me.
I feel because im so lonely, I truly want to be alone.
I have no friends, no family.
It’s always just me and the kids.
I have tried to call it off afew times the last few months. He would quit his job over me leaving him. Which I won’t let him do, he loves his job.
What is wrong with me.

Nikki Briant

Hun have you talked to your doctor about possible PND?

There is nothing wrong with you. We aren't super human.

Take care of yourself x


This is the first post I've read in a long time that has sat me on my ass and made me think how many times I could have been the one who took it all for granted and walked away and the thought of him with someone else just crushes me We have similar stories. Thankyou for sharing


Currently going through this right now.. I’ve told my husband I want to separate, he is devastated. We are both not happy so something drastically needs to change. I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing but keep going doing the same thing doesn’t feel right either.. I’m lost..


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