Social Media- 5 Things bloggers/business should know!

I have been receiving emails from people asking for social media tips so here they are. 

1.  Work out your theme/purpose 

I decided early what the purpose/mission for my blog was.  So every decision I made from that point was easy. I didn’t need to think too much. When coming up with your direction/theme (“brand” if you like), you need to think about what you want to be “known” for.   Whatever you do don’t copy someone else. It’s very obvious and you come across unauthentic.  Be you and stick to that!

2. Try not to compare

It’s really easy to get caught up in the “numbers”. Put your blinkers on.  Keep your head down and bum up. It’s easy to get distracted and start over-thinking what everyone else is doing. The problem with that is you start to doubt yourself and that gives you brain freeze. It stops your creativity.  There have been days I might post on Facebook and receive 3 comments, as well as days that I post and get 200 comments. Same goes for my blog posts. I try not to get caught up in that. It is hard but you need to focus on the big picture.  Move on…

3. Respect everyone you come across:

Be respectful online as you would be face to face. If someone comes to your page and says “hi” visit their page and say “hi” back.  If someone tweets you tweet them back.  If you’re in business don’t feel that it’s ok to post your business advertising or blog links on someone’s page. Think of it like this, would you walk into someone’s business and start putting posters up without asking if it was ok? Ahh no you wouldn’t.   At least introduce yourself and ask if it’s ok. Some people don’t mind. In fact they may encourage it.  But do your homework first.  Get to know the ‘culture’ of the page (before) you approach them. If someone peeves you off go to bed and sleep on it you can read my post about that here.

4. Help others succeed

Actively promote others, but don’t expect they will promote you in return.  Do it because you believe in them and believe in what they are saying or selling. I actively promote people that I “feel” align with me, as in, have the same purpose.


You have probably noticed I have talked about being you throughout this whole blog post. I honestly believe that is THE MOST important point.  Be Honest, Be Real whatever you do don’t underestimate people.  Humans have a great inbuilt bullshit detector.- That’s why it’s easier to just be You and be honourable with your intentions.

If you need help with any sort of Social Media contact these guys

Have you got any points to add? Have I missed anything out? or is there something you want to know?

About the Author

Kristy Vallely is the founder and Creator of the Imperfect Mum.

Kristy believed there needed to be a place that women could go to. Where they could talk and relate. A place they could feel safe. A place they trusted. So The Imperfect Mum was born in June 2011. There was obviously such a need that when the gates 'opened' a huge flurry of women followed. Kristy has always been very passionate about women and the issues they face.

Her passion and determination has helped her carve out a career helping others and creating 'a go to place' for women from all around the world.

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15 Replies


Thanks so much for the advice, I need all the help I can get!!

The Imperfect Mum

Pleasure Jane! - Where do you blog at?


Great tips lovely. Love how you encourage others to be themselves. So grateful to know you online and to meet you in person very soon. N x

The Imperfect Mum

Ohhh I just can't wait to meet you IRL my friend... XXXX

Kelly De Vries

Great advice Kristy! Most of these suggestions can really be applied to the way we can live in person as well!
Just be you, because you have your story to tell, say hi when others say hi, help others when you can, work out your purpose in life and stick to it.....

Great advice for bloggers and everyone else too! Thanks! x

The Imperfect Mum

Mmmmm just re-read you can too! - Thanks love XX


love it... very good advice ! :)

The Imperfect Mum

Great to know you liked it! X

Kirri White

It's about time you wrote this post :)

The Imperfect Mum

Yes, I know you told me to write it ages ago!! XX

Kirri White

Actually had a re-read and's also a pretty cool manifesto for life!

The Imperfect Mum

It is huh! never thought of it like that!


That's great advice, thanks for that I will put it to good use!

Ps. Be Yourself ha.

The Imperfect Mum

Ohhh Thanks love! good to know you got something out of it!

Kelly B -- Be A Fun Mum

Just popping over to say Hi. LOVED meeting you Kristy. x