Really think about that! – As parents we know that we need to fill our kids heads with words of affirmations and try to give them as much praise as possible so they can grow into successful humans.
We know that right?
Well, what about us?
How often do you hear that little voice in your head putting you down saying things like:
“Well you really stuffed that up"
"God, you’re slack!” or
“You really could have done better if you were more organised!”
To be honest, I personally hear that negative voice a lot. (If I don’t monitor it) It’s like this little yucky fellow that slowly makes his way back into your head.
I caught myself feeling really sad the other day so I started to question why I was feeling that way.
I started to listen to that voice consciously. That little inner voice was having a great ol time ripping into me.
I find it creeps back when I’m either tired, stressed or I’ve simple over-scheduled myself.
It’s when I haven’t actively looked after myself by taking time out to actively do things I love.
I think I speak for us all when I say, we as Mothers do that a lot! It’s about maintaining control and taking the time out to be active in our own self care.
Here’s a couple of questions I would like you to ponder.
When was the last time you thought about you?
Can you clearly articulate what makes you happy?
Do you make time for you?
How loud is your self love voice?
How loud is your self hate voice?
Which one do you listen to more?
How did you go? do you think it’s time to make a change?
In order to function and be the best we can be; we need to self check regularly we need to check in and listen to our thoughts and ask ourselves are they negative or are they positive?
That negative voice effects our feelings and they way we parent, THEY DO! That is why we MUST actively turn that self love voice up!
If you want to be a better Mother you MUST look after your own needs and wants. Think back to the last time you flew in a plane.
What did the Air Hostess say? – She said, fit your own breathing device before you fit your child’s.
You can not physically help your child or be the best role model for them if you don’t first look after YOU!
Next time you hear that negative voice, say stop in your head. Then replace it with some words of self love. Practice self compassion, be kind to yourself. It will come naturally after time.
It’s something i’m still practicing. Practice makes perfect right? – RIGHT!