“Everyday is a life time”

Today I had the pleasure of meeting a beautiful human.

I must share my experience with you.

As most of you know my family own an Educational business and that is where I work. Today a man was waiting to pay at the counter, I turned to see him waiting and I apologised profusely. I felt both embarrassed and unprofessional as I was engaging in a conversation with another staff member whilst he waited.

I walked quickly to serve him he says “I have not a worry in the world” “Slow down, it is ok and you not need apologise”. “I only have one worry and I don’t know where she is”.

A moment goes by.. He then says “I do know where she is, she is at the hospital having chemo as we speak.”

I pause.. not quite knowing what to say. - What do you say to a perfect stranger whom as divulged so much?

Silence carries us on, it wasn’t an awkward silence, which was strange as we did not know each other. I then plucked up the courage to say

“So, will she be ok?

"No she won’t be ok, but we are living each day as it comes, I believe we have been given more than many couples, we now have each day and we know our future”.

He then looks up and looks into my eyes and says. “Everyday is a lifetime” his eyes were glistening, glistening with hope, glistening with happiness, glistening with sadness.

He then turned and walked out the door saying:
“Everyday is a lifetime”

It was quite possibly one of the most profound conversations I’ve ever had. Here is a man who’s wife is dying from cancer yet he is still full of hope and happiness. He is living in the present – one day at a time.

We all have something to learn from this quietly confident soul.

About the Author

Kristy Vallely is the founder and Creator of the Imperfect Mum.

Kristy believed there needed to be a place that women could go to. Where they could talk and relate. A place they could feel safe. A place they trusted. So The Imperfect Mum was born in June 2011. There was obviously such a need that when the gates 'opened' a huge flurry of women followed. Kristy has always been very passionate about women and the issues they face.

Her passion and determination has helped her carve out a career helping others and creating 'a go to place' for women from all around the world.

Posted in:  Life Lessons, Relationships & Marriage, Loss & Grief

10 Replies


Oh, brought tears to my eyes - may his and his wife's everyday be a happy lifetime and I'll try and appreciate mine a little more.

The Imperfect Mum

Yes, let's hope and pray they do! X

DaniellenHarry ...

wow...what an incredibly intimate and profound moment to share.

The Imperfect Mum

Yes, I have to say it really was profound. Xx

Michelle Suters Roelandts

This moved me to tears also. My Aunty has Non Hodgkin Lymphoma and to see her taking her life so positively really helps me alot to deal with issues in my life. What a wonderful spirit this man has.

The Imperfect Mum

Yes, I agree. We are blessed to have these kinds of people walking the earth. X

Kirsty Forbes

wow. How beautiful is that. Thankyou for sharing, Kristy xx

The Imperfect Mum

Pleasure Kirsty xx


Wow. Goosebumps. It's amazing how tragedy can often strip away the concerns that often take precedence in our life, so that all we are left with is the most profound, and simple, truths. Thank you for sharing. x

The Imperfect Mum

Thank YOU for reading beautiful woman! xx