Please be kind.
I am a mother of many children whom have varying degrees of additional needs, our last child is almost 5.
I've recently left my job due to a physical disability that I've had surgery for, and will continue to have surgeries for, and I am a full time Uni student.
I am presently experiencing poor mental health, am on various medications for my own safety and wellness as I am working through some significant trauma.
My husband and I are absolutely done having children, and we've just found out I'm pregnant again.
This news was not well received by either of us, and I do not want to proceed with the pregnancy.
We are not in a financial position to have another mouth to feed, and now our older children are off to school, I am finally in a position to look after myself.
Pregnancy has been confirmed, and I know I do not want this, nor does our family need this.
So, why do I feel so awful for making a choice that is 100% the correct one?
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It’s ok to feel bad and remorseful but to also know it’s the right decision. I think it’s when you don’t face those feelings that you end up with a problem. You can go ahead and do what’s right for you and also give those feelings space and handle them (when you’re ready) it doesn’t make what you’ve done, or plan to do, wrong. It sounds unanimously right, so I don’t see you having any lasting issues, it’s just a complex issue.
Even though it’s a rationale decision. You will still grieve this decision. You can be both sad but relieved. I had a termination in my early 20s I have never regretted but it has always made me sad.
You're allowed to grieve and feel all your feels. And the hormones are there now too!!
I had a termination when I was 18 & no way was I in a position to raise a child. No regrets - but yeah I still think about it (mid 40's now).
You can make the right decision even though it's a sad one. Not everything is black & white.