Where do I even begin. What do I even say.. I don’t know if this is actually a question or I just need to vent to someone as I can’t to family and friends.
I’ve Been with my husband since we were teenagers and now in our mid 30s with two kids a house and both employed. Husband does work 60-70hours Monday to Friday. No weekend work BUT nothing seems to please him. His not the person I fell in love with and married, I don’t even want to be near him most days or scared if I say the wrong thing an argument will start. He is constantly tired and angry. Little things set him off. He was a drinker when I meet him socially that was all but lately it’s worse he is happy to sit watch any sport that is on and get drunk any day of the week even if he has work the next day.
I do everything for the kids, sports school the lot occasionally he may cook dinner if he is home from work at a reasonable hour. He doesn’t have Relationship with one of our kids and the other one only when it comes to sport and has no interest in me never wants to do anything I like or want to do unless it’s on his terms and it’s of something that interest him and wants me to join in on.
I done emotionally, physically and am ready to just leave!
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Yes sounds like an unhappy home. You only get one life and one shot at your kids childhood.
Could he be using drugs? He sounds like he's on nasty comedowns and trying his best to hide it.
I would do anything to go back to my marriage and try and fix things. Separation and divorce is hell. Yes it gets better but it’s so complicated Remove the layers of all the frustrations and see your husband as a person, as a man, and then imagine if he wasn’t in your life any more. Imagine being a single mum and not having him to talk to - about anything. I felt like you once ....if you believe your life will truly be better without him and you are comfortable with the idea of him being with someone else ....then honest conversations are needed. But give him the option to at least try and know where your heads at
I don't have any advice because I am in the exact same position! My partner drinks heavy every night and often he is rude and nasty. Just the other night a fight started because I asked him to put his beer cans in the bin as he walks past it instead of leaving them scattered all over the kitchen. And well did it go on and on about what I don't do and why I don't I do this etc. Its bloody exhausting that's for sure!
Oh this sounds all too familiar!
I got out, going on for 7 years ago... it was rough for me and my kids and he made our lives hell for a few years when he realised he’d lost control of me (lots of court dates, mediation, manipulation of the kids, threats) but it was still the best decision I could have made & we are all doing great now!!
As the original poster of this question/vent.. I have read everyone responses. We are both different people from when we first meet. I know he works long hours and I understand he is tired. Sometimes all I want is a hello when walking in the door. I do work , my job is mentally and physically draining some days, with hone and the kids, I’m tired myself. I’m not perfect and sometimes I can be of fault for his moods, just like his is with me. He is a communicator and I’m not. This was posted over 2 weeks and in them 2 weeks we have spoken about multiple things and we both know where each other stand and how we are feeling.
I won’t leave not until I know we are both done and can’t work on anything else.