Do people change or shouldnI leave this alone?

Anonymous

Do people change or shouldnI leave this alone?

Please no judgement.
I have a friend in prison that is currently doing time for murder of his ex. It was so completely out of character for him, he just completely snapped and their relationship was a really toxic mix altogether with both sides having anger issues and happened back in 2013. He handed himself in, and pleaded guilty and has since been in prison since 2014, working in his temper, doing all types of domestic violence and behaviour and anger courses. My concern is, my feelings have really grown for him, and I am a believer of second chances, but it was all over the media and one, I am worried what my loved ones will say and two, can it be possible that people change for the better after something like that?

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Anonymous

No it is not possible to change, and this is either a troll post, or you really need to respect yourself more.

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Anonymous

I really hope that your children have loved ones that will step in if you do get into a relationship with him. I am sorry but your children don't deserve any of this.
What happens if/when people find out about him? The parents of your kids friends aren't going to want him around their children. Your kids may be bullied. Is he really worth putting your children through any of this?

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Anonymous

Go find someone else to have feelings for, you could end up a victim too.he murdered his ex! Wake up
To yourself clown.

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Anonymous

I don’t think many people really can change there anger problem. You should just keep him as a friend. I wouldn’t want my kid near someone who i know has killed someone.

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Anonymous

Wake up to yourself. You have kids and he murdered his partner. How sickening. No excuses for it. You or your kids could be next. Stop fantasising about it and go find someone decent to be in your kids life. You know. Someone who hasn’t murdered someone or been in jail. What are you thinking.? Please seek professional help before you do something you’ll end up regretting. Meet someone else and turn your focus to them. This person murdered someone, took away her life. Destroyed her families life for ever. They don’t get to spend birthdays with her anymore, Christmas and special occasions. Imagine the hell they are living day by day with out their innocent daughter. You want to put yourself and your kids in his life? Please don’t do it. He doesn’t even deserve to be let out of prison, let alone be with you and your kids. Go speak with the victims family and look at their photos of their daughter who’s life was taken and listen to their heartbreak and stories and I bet you change your mind. Your kids deserve better. Don’t make stupid decisions and involve them. You’ll regret it.

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Anonymous

You have already made your mind up, you are just looking for reassurance. I personally think you are an idiot for putting your kids lives at risk. He is a murderer. The poor family of the victim. Imagine how they feel each day waking up without their daughter, knowing that she died and the hands of this evil man. Here is you wanting a relationship with a murderer and to put your kids in that mix!! What the hell. Go find someone that isn’t locked up and go enjoy your life in a safe and happy relationship with someone who hasn’t taken away someone’s life. You need to go get professional help. Your poor kids, put them first.

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Anonymous

All I see here if you trying to down play wnat he did. Move on from him. Don’t become his next victim. You have kids, stop for a minute and think of them. I can’t believe you would even consider this. Toxic or not there was. I excuse for him to murder her!

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Anonymous

All I see here if you trying to down play wnat he did. Move on from him. Don’t become his next victim. You have kids, stop for a minute and think of them. I can’t believe you would even consider this. Toxic or not there was. I excuse for him to murder her!

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Anonymous

All I see here if you trying to down play wnat he did. Move on from him. Don’t become his next victim. You have kids, stop for a minute and think of them. I can’t believe you would even consider this. Toxic or not there was. I excuse for him to murder her!

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Anonymous

All I see here if you trying to down play wnat he did. Move on from him. Don’t become his next victim. You have kids, stop for a minute and think of them. I can’t believe you would even consider this. Toxic or not there was. I excuse for him to murder her!

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Anonymous

All I see here if you trying to down play what he did. Move on from him. Don’t become his next victim. You have kids, stop for a minute and think of them. I can’t believe you would even consider this. Toxic or not there was. I excuse for him to murder her!

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