I have all boys. After the birth of my last son I had my tubes tied I felt at the time I was pressured and wasn’t in the right state of mind a year later I very much regret this decision. I now want to get a reversal but my question being is a reversal expensive as I have been told you can’t get the procedure done through the public system and have to do private and if myself and my partner were considering another baby would ivf be a better road to go down or is that more expensive than the reversal. I very much would love a girl but I understand you can’t “choose” and the only option there was to go to the states for gender selection. Or can this be done in Australia?
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You can’t do gender selection in this country,. Even if you happened to have a genetic girl, she may not turn out to be a girl or she may not fit your preconceived ideas of what a girl/daughter would be.
Have a child if you want any child. If you have a child with expectations of what role that child would play in your life you are going to get frustrated. I understand because I wanted a girl myself, and really had to process what it was I was actually wanting and the chances a child would fit some a defined role in my life.
I don’t have recent updates on success rates, and costs. However you may have quite a wait if you go down this road due to restrictions on elective surgeries at the moment.
I would be going down the ivf road. How many more children do you want? If it’s just the 1 or even 2 I’d definitely be starting the ivf process. Goodluck x
If we decide to it would be just one more
If you are in Melb I think it’s around the 5-6k mark after Medicare for ivf.
Depending on how your tubes were done a reversal may not be possible.
Gender Selection is banned in Australia unless you have a determined and medically proven genetic condition that means a child of that sex will end up with it. In Australia it is the only time they will select the gender of the embryo and discard any of the affected embryos
You will have to partake in genetic studies and your embryos would have to be PGD and PGS tested. That costs $1000’s more and is not rebated through medicare
IVF depending on weather you have private health or not and medicare rebates etc costs differently for different levels of care. There’s standard and tailored.
You must have a BMi of 38 or less. Under 35 if you want it bulk billed.
It cost us close to 10k for one ivf cycle where we were sucessful. After rebates but we do not have private health and I wasn’t under a 35 BMI so wasn’t eligible for bulk billing
Gender selection is banned in Australia unless for medical reasons. Honestly I know a few people who kept having kids until they got the opposite sex child and they realized it's not what they thought having a boy or girl would be like. I have one friend in particular who had 3 girls then a boy and her son hates being the only boy and is always fighting with his sisters and has just been a very difficult child altogether and she wishes she just had her 3 girls again as life was much easier. I can understand why it's banned because it costs thousands and thousands of dollars and a lot of the time people do regret it. I particularly feel for kids born out of this who end up being transgender and wonder how they will be treated.
How many kids do you have already?
I think you may need to face the facts, that even if you decide you want another child, that it may not happen.
Both tubal reversal and IVF are not guaranteed to work on every woman, every time.
I also think you both need to go in wanting another child of any gender not just a girl.
If you meet the requirements for bulk billed IVF you may only be out of pocket $1000-$3000.
IVF in the States is in the 10s of thousands. They don't they have the medicare rebates we have here
Just FYI a friend had gender selection done overseas and some how ended up with a 5th boy! in the contract they signed the fine print said no guarantee, so they had no legal recourse either. luckily they got over it and got on with life just not exactly what they paid for .
Hi Anon!
I am currently in the same boat ! Had my tubes done after 3rd because my partner made me choose to either terminate the baby or to get my tubes done. So of course I chose to get my tubes done. Every since then I have had nothing but health issues and decided a few weeks ago I'm going to get them untied(as long as the specialist says it's okay) because I want to make this decision for ME. I was looking at accessing my super to get my tubes untied. Sorry I know your question was more about IVF in the end! Hope all goes well!