Hi Sisters , I am 28 , have a beautiful 3 year old son , i want another baby , but i suffer anxiety and ptsd , and im afraid of bringing another child into this earth for all its problems we see in the news. it is so debilitating knowing that i am feeling scared to have another baby . i see myself as a proud awesome mother and i feel.... silly almost..... making a massive decision based on fears of the world...... help
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You are not silly. Are you recieving treatment for your ptsd?
No not currently . I feel over the years ive reached out through GPs and never really felt i got the help i needed.
Ok lovely, from one PTSD mumma to another, GPs are great but their abilities as far as PTSD go, is writing a referal/mental health plan for you to see a psychologist who has worked with other clients with PTSD.
I am currently seeing a wonderful psychologist who is treating me for it. When I think back to how I was 6 months ago to now, I can't beleieve the progress I've made. I still hve a long way to go but it makes me feel positive that I will be ok. You can be too.
Do a bit of research of psychologists in your area so you can go to your GP and say you want a referral to this particular person. Best of luck!! Please seek help xxx
The news is horrible! So hard to switch off too because its no longer just on TV its staring at you every time you look at your phone or laptop. You probably already know this but your anxiety has taken over - there really isn't more bad stuff happening! Its just that we are hearing about things we wouldn't normally hear. We are hearing not only our national news but international news, things that 20 or more years ago we would have never heard about, only the major stuff. Like yesterday I read about the Mum who raped her baby in America. Why did I need to know that? Why was 7 news Australia posting it on their fb page? Its for the shock value and to attract attention to their page. News isn't news anymore, in this day of the internet where they have to fight for an audience they pick and choose what they post just for the shock value. Seek help for your anxiety surrounding this and I hope you choose to have another baby. The world needs good people in it x.
I personally think you need to find a good GP and get referrals to mental health professionals.
Switch off the news.
Then remind yourself that in this day and age our children are raised with better access to food, nutrition, comfortable homes and safer environments to live in than ever before.
I actually think that if you know in your heart you aren't psychologically stable and feel that having another child will increase your symptoms, don't. Nothing wrong with being honest with yourself, practical, and acknowledging your own limitations.
What if that child changed the world? What if that child could bring peace to the world. There is so many negatives in the world but also so many positives. How we raise our children to be amazing people and make a impact on the world, teach them nothing is impossible and the kindness they give can impact someone’s life massively. Don’t put our fears into them, if we start raising the next generation to be kind then the cruel world we currently live in may one day be completely different. We don’t know what the future holds. Ultimately the decision is yours and if your hesitant because of the world we live in why not foster a child? Give that child a chance at a good life and become something that impacts our world for the good.