I don't know how to handle this situation ......my ex husband has remarried ,that's not the problem .it happened6 months ago and he hasn't told our kids ,they don't know this woman ,that also isn't the issue . the problem is that it was deliberately not told to me or the kids and apparently all his family knew ,these people I've had in my home for Christmas ,overnight stays ,birthday parties .
I'm shattered by the ease that they deceived us .(wedding ring removed before visits and things like that ) .( this families default setting is lying and being deceitful ) but I was sure that after the hell I went through with my ex ,they wouldn't want to carry on this behaviour to another generation ,do I tell my kids he has remarried or wait for him to do it ,do I confront them over the deceit . I hate lies and feel this could hurt my kids by finding out so far after it happened .
what do I do ............
Edit : He lives in another state and only sees his kids 5 times a year ( his choice) I try to get him to have more contact and spend more time
The kids are 7 and 10