The most influential figures in your childs life - Besides YOU!

Our children are our number one priority and we all strive to be the best possible mentor to them.  But let’s face it – we cannot do it alone.  I like to think of the village approach - each person in your child’s life has something important to contribute towards their future. Building and maintaining strong positive relationships with the key figures in yourchild’s life can enhance and strengthen the bond between you and your child.

Once your child starts school, one of most influential figures in your child’s life is their teacher, so it is very important to work together to achieve the best outcomes for your child. Here are some tips on how you can foster a sense of partnership with your child’s teacher.

  • Be positive about your child’s teacher and School.
  • If times permits offer to volunteer your time in the classroom.
  • Consider donating classroom supplies or a gift certificate to a store where teachers can purchase materials for the classroom. (You’d be surprised how many supplies teachers buy with their own money!)
  • Communication is the key. Let the teacher know if there are issues or circumstances in your child’s life that may affect how your child performs at school. This will ensure that they are aware of your child’s needs in advance, helping them to be proactive - rather than reactive.
  • Try to stay involved!  Ben and I working parents so I do understand it is sometimes difficult to make it to some events.  If I cannot make it I will “check in” to see if any other family members (Grandparents, Aunties, Uncles) have any spare time to attend.
  • Remember that the teacher is a person first.  Don’t forget to say “thank you”.  Respect their schedule - what may be a good time for you may not be a good time for them.
  • Don’t forget to acknowledge all of the School Staff, Teacher aids, Office Staff, and Playground duty staff.
  • If you are impressed by your child’s teacher make sure you let the principal know in person or in writing.
  • If you are unimpressed by your teacher speak to them directly. If nothing improves speak to the principal - do not resort to speaking to other mothers (especially in front of your child).

The most important point to remember is Respect. I always show respect. Whether I think the teacher is in the right or wrong, I teach my child to respect them.

Remember - when you are taking your child to school in the morning you are handing them over to one of their life mentors. This person will be working with your child throughout the year nurturing and encouraging them - not just academically - they will also be imparting social values and contributing towards your child’s emotional development as well.

What are some points you could add?

About the Author

Kristy Vallely is the founder and Creator of the Imperfect Mum.

Kristy believed there needed to be a place that women could go to. Where they could talk and relate. A place they could feel safe. A place they trusted. So The Imperfect Mum was born in June 2011. There was obviously such a need that when the gates 'opened' a huge flurry of women followed. Kristy has always been very passionate about women and the issues they face.

Her passion and determination has helped her carve out a career helping others and creating 'a go to place' for women from all around the world.

Posted in:  Education, Kids

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Tash Hughes

Absolutely! Children need a village to raise them to help get a balance and variety of experiences and perspectives.

Showing the teachers respect (they deserve it as humans anyway!) is actually an important support for your kids' education. I have found that chatting to the teacher regularly, about nothing in particular, builds a relationship so the door is open when something needs to be said - the teachers know I am approachable and will listen, and they know I don't just whinge at them.

I have also shared tips or resources with teachers - for example, one teacher was talking about the difficulty in remembering her passwords so I recommended a password tool to her to make her life a little easier.