I love him. I don't know why any more, but I do. This isn't what love is meant to feel like. I'm lost, and love a man who doesn't appreciate me. Who takes advantage of me. A man who I feel lost his love for me a long time ago. But has only kept me around becsuse I'm a good mum to his son, and our daughter. I never get a thank you. He never takes responsibility when he's done wrong. He's self centred, selfish. I'm his lowest priority.
But I can't leave. I can't afford to leave. I can't work because of an injury, but I don't qualify for a pension. No one will hire me as I'm a risk. Rent in my location is beyond affordabl. Even share houses are out of my price range. I can't rely on friends or family as they don't have room, and have their own problems I don't want to step on.
I want to save us. I want to do couples therapy. I know he will say no. He sees no wrong in his actions. He's not abusive. He is just neglectful of me, and my needs. I don't know what to do.
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It's probably a good idea for you to seek therapy for yourself, many women believe they can't leave a relationship due to finances, however there are options available. You need to think of yourself and exactly why you're remaining in the relationship when he clearly doesn't value you. Often it comes down to how you feel about yourself.
I'll give you some very honest and brutal feedback. You can leave, you just don't want it enough. You can get a job, you just don't want to. Women MUST work. Employers now are more than ever making sure they are inclusive and are required by law to make reasonable adjustments to workplaces to ensure you can do your job. You're just choosing not to. Your statement that no one will hire you is incorrect. You just haven't done the work to see what's out there. Make a plan and do some research. But you have to want it enough first. Nothing changes if you don't put the work in. Things won't come to you on a silver platter or magically turn themselves around. Write down what your best life could look like in 12 months time - your own savings account, a place of your own, a stable job, freedom to find yourself etc. There's your plan already started. It's all very achievable. Good luck.