What do you do with the mother in laws who think they know everything and think they know best for your child?!? I’m so over it! Sticking her nose in all the time, telling me things constantly that I “should” be doing for my children! I’m doing the absolute best I can possibly do, doing everything I possibly can for my children and she still sticks her nose in like it’s not good enough! I know I’m doing a great job with my children, she is just a super control freak and feels like she has to be in control of everything! So frustrating!!
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'Thank you for your advice but I have my own way of doing things. I will get it wrong sometimes but that will be on me!'
Just keep repeating it. Make sure you partner is on board & backs you up. If he isn't then you'll need to minimise contact.
My MIL was horrible and this was one of her traits. Shutting her down the same way was the only option.
Are you about to get your husbands help with her?
No, they think the sun shines out each others asses unfortunately
Tell her in no uncertain terms that they are your children and you will do what you see fit in raising them. If she has any issues with adhering to keeping her opinions and unsolicited parenting advice to herself, then you will do whatever necessary to ensure you are not undermined. Ie limited access to the children. Please don't back down. I'm currently in a similar situation and have let things slide for years to my children's and my own detriment. You don't owe anyone anything because they are family. Children are not obligated to have relationships with unsafe relatives forced on them because they are family. It has taken me some time to get here. If I can help get others in similar situations there sooner rather than later, I've done a good thing. Best of luck to you ❤️