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Hello wonderful world of supporters
I don't really know where to start with this so please bare with me
I've got a very sensitive situation happening and I'm needing some advice help something anything really.
I'm in real need of professional help someone that wants to help me do there job to get back what I nearly died over.
When I was nearly 11 I was in a terrible accident suffering terrible facial injuries, smashed teeth, smashed knee and had half a litre of blood left by the time i woke up from being knocked out (i was sleeping on a top bunk bed with no safety rail in a dinning room in a motel) I was awarded a settlement payment from the motel it took 3 years in which my biological parents spent anyway.
I was told they had been put some away for me for when i was 18 from what was left after they had gone on a big spending spree buying up all sorts of things for themselves boat, car, lounge, massive amounts of alcohol and cigarettes but unfortunately they have spent every single cent, I got a futon bunk bed and small TV. The cheque was written out in my name but some how the bank allowed biologically mother to sign the back of it and cashed it in her account straight away I was old enough to have my own account by then. I remember that day like it was today she drive stright to the hastings hotel bottle shop and bought 2 cartoons of stingers if you dont remember them they had a little test tube attached to the glass bottle you dumped in the bottle and up to the frannies to by cigarettes. I've asked and asked and asked for it back but they think they have done nothing wrong.
The lawyer at the chris franey is now retired the law firm that took over his cases can't find the file they think because of the time frame it may have been destroyed.
I'm not a lawyer but there has to be a way to track down the case number surely?
Medical records from the hospital would of been requested sure a court case number would be in there in the notes somewhere, or the bank said they still would have the check on file that was issued to me it can be traced back to where it originally came from and why it was written out again surely a case number.
The biological parents have received the letter of demand on the 30th of January 2023 giving them 30 days to return the money they stole that's has been and gone.
I need my mouth fixed the free dentures hurt and cause huge ulcers I can't eat properly, I need my lips fixed I keep biting the scar tissue and for them to look nice like they should look what the money was awarded to me for to have it all fixed.
There is a lifetime of trauma, abuse, sexual abuse, torture, rape, horric violence and financial abuse and still it continues its even worse now i still have my voice the ither peoson has lost there voice to dementia while 6 grown adults are all aware and choose to ignore it..
I need help getting them out of my nans house where they all live rent free and have taken over everything disconnected her phone the lot, her power of attorney is a joke they just want her to die so they can take everything she worked until she was 65 years old for and now her daughters and drug addict son are helping themselves
I tried to stop it on my own but im just one person.
Unless I can find this case number or a lawyer who cares about serving justice on people like these biological people there is only so much 1 person can do when so many others who can do something about won't.
Any help or advice would be so extremely appreciated I'm located near Port Macquarie in nsw on the mid north coast
Please don't suggest legal aid they don't get involved in these matters apparently, I've had 5 appointments with them since mid January, law society and law justice are going to try and track down who i might be able to talk to to get me in the right direction but I'm running out of time I don't have months to wait
Nan's just turned 80 in December
And I'll have no gums or palate left within the next 6 months
Any help 🙏
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You could file an elderly abuse claim against those responsible for your Nans care. And a tribunal will look into that matter.
I have no idea how you go about recouping the money your parents have spent on your behalf. I imagine it will be a civil matter though. And depending on the timeframe evidence maybe hard to trace. I’m so sorry this has happened to you.
Have you involved police?
Have you contacted the hospital to find out how to get your file?
Pick a lawyer, you won't get a free one, and don't expect miracles.
It just took me over 1 month for a simple property settlement. What you're asking from them is a lot more, digging up historical information, I'm assuming all stuff that's in physical archives if it exists at all. Man hours of trawling through actual files to find what you need so it's not like they're just doing a digital database search.
Ideally, also see if you can't get your hands on a copy of the relevant laws of that time re children's compo. Maybe it was settled out of court hence the court wasn't involved in holding the money in trust? Maybe it was released for medical expenses but you could prove those had significant corners cut? Where was the work done? Will a specialist now confirm it was botched? It was the best tech available at the time? It was a procedure requiring follow up that your parents never returned you for?
It won't be easy.
As for the rest. You could make a report of elder abuse as mentioned, don't be surprised if nothing comes of it. We've been telling my in laws for years to stop letting the rest of their moochass kids sponge off them. It's their choice though, just as it's your Nan's choice.
Good Morning!
It's Kelly here and I help Kristy with the Imperfect Mum site.
I was about to post your question to Facebook - but noticed you have not posted anonymously. I am nervous in posting for you, in case revealing your identity to Facebook will have an impact on the situation.
Please write into me on the Facebook page on how you would like to proceed - Post without a link? Repost again anonymously? You're ok with me posting as it is?
Just let me know. Thanks!
-Kelly