Has anyone met someone while a solo mum with a baby.
Not after insults or put baby 1st etc. Just really curious of experiences out there of this
Interested to know if its a total put off or a good thing to some.
I know theres wonderful people who step in and step up with partners with kids.
Would love to hear some nice stories for hope its possible down the track.
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I think it would be so much easier with a baby than it is older kids. I was single for 4 years because I wanted my kids (and me) to be ready. But you don't need to really worry about a baby, it's not like they know what's going on and it's easier for a new partner to bond with a baby than an older child. The only thing I would say is make sure you are ready. Be confident with your parenting style and what you want for your child, don't let a new partner deal with new behaviours as you head into the toddler stage and beyond, be clear that what you say goes.
I met my partner while a single mum to 3. I told him about the kids when I met him but I didn’t go into much detail about them, and I took it slow. Once I knew he was a good guy, I let him meet them. Once I saw he was great with them I was willing to pursue a real relationship with him.
I had high standards for what I was looking for in a guy. Yeah I had baggage in the form of small kids but it didn’t make me less worthy so I refused to settle until I found the right guy. It’s been 7 years and we have another Bub and we are as happy as ever.
You will find someone. Take it slow and don’t just settle. That’s my only advice
A friend of mine had a toddler and a baby when she met her now husband.
They met through mutual friends, he's raised her two children as his own and they welcomed two more together.
I don't know him super well but he seems to be a genuinely good dude and they're happy, so there's a nice story for you 😉
Blended family are also a dime a dozen these days, I'm sure you will find love again and be very happy.
I do think you need to be realistic and cautious dating as a single parent though, it's a whole different ball game to dating as a childless adult. It's not just your life and your feelings anymore, it's also your child's life and your child's feelings. You have to be very choosy about who you invite into your kid's lives. That's probably the most difficult aspect in my opinion, meeting someone isn't hard, meeting the right someone can take some work!
Yes, we have now been married 10 years and have two more children together.
My baby was 10 months. He was a wonderful Dad from the beginning
My mother in law had my sister in law when she was young. She met my father in law when bub was still a baby. He immediately stepped up and hasn’t left her life since.