Hi ladies
I want everyone's opinion on a debate my husband and I are having. This gets heated and is causing much stress for our marriage.
So I want a 3rd child and husband is done with the 2 we have. Maternaly it's all I want and crave. Money is not an issue. We both work fulltime. Eldest is in private school and youngest will be 4 soon. He is using excuses like:
We can't travel with 3.
Life will be hectic etc
They won't leave home until he is -- years of age...
Blah blah blah is all I'm hearing, none of these are valid excuses in my opinion.
He has never had to get up to feed them or change them I do all of this and I am happy to do so. I have always had maternity leave and entitled now. We have an investment property so always have a back up for if I can't go back to work etc.
I want one asap and we have had this talk many times and getting no where.
How do I work around this without risking my marriage and him loosing me as I'm very set on this desire. I honestly feel that if I can't have a 3rd I will resent him and regret this for ever. He is a great husband but we are on very different pages. Please help. Am I being unrealistic here? I see his reasons and honor his feelings but no matter how hard I try and think of his perspective I just can't understand it. Help.
A debate about having another child
A debate about having another child
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Go off the pill, tell him of course, up to him to stop it from happening then. He can get the snip. Then it will be up to fate if you fall pregnant if he isn't careful enough.
It sounds like your husband doesn't give a rats about what you want which is very sad for you. Maybe you should leave him if he can't consider your feelings.
Imagine being the other way around. You need counselling to help you move on from this feeling. It takes two to be on board. With age gaps like that I can see why he’s feeling this way to be honest.
I wanted a 3rd my husband did not. I told him I was not going to take precautions to stop a pregnancy if he didn't won't another baby it was up to him to prevent it. My 3rd is now 9 and is the apple of her dads eye.