How do you get the courage to walk away from a full time job? It is quite stressful at times which I don’t mind. My anxiety is through the roof every day though not knowing what the day will bring good/bad. I love the people I work with, I dislike the company I work for and my boss. I’m in two minds to just walk away take my leave and shut the door but I’m so scared to close that chapter after 12 years. My husband fully supports my decision no matter what I make, but I’m so scared of not having a job. I have been applying but not fully. I guess I’m just asking if anyone has regretted walking away for their job?
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In my field I meet thousands of people every year that regret it. Get another job first. Go part-time for now if you need to. Take leave if you need. But don't leave without another job unless you don't want another and want to be a stay at home mum or work in an industry where getting a job, even with a gap in your employment, is easy peasy.
Nope change is always good. It cant be worse than anxiety through the roof daily??
The best thing about it is, if the new jobs not righ, youll keep looking, different mindset to right now. But youll also find new opportunities in directions you havent tested before and its quite exciting and develops you, feels great. Definitely dont be scared of change.
Get a job first. Sure, might sound nice to just leave it all behind but what happens if 12 months down the track you have no job? Just think carefully about this. Get your resume etc sorted and apply apply apply. Even for a part time job etc.🤷♀️
Hah I did it! Best thing I ever did and don't regret it at all. My mental health is so much better for it
I think you need to get some list going of your emotional drivers, financial drivers, and personal wants.
Sounds like on an emotional level you are burnt out. and great that hubby supports you, however what happens if in 3 years you still can't find work?
Do you enjoy working generally? then find work elsewhere first, it's good for self esteem, purpose. and hell who doesn't like a few dollars.
What do you want?
I have been on that edge and sometimes just taking of a chunk of time to regroup, and really understand why i go every day helps weed out the effect stupid people have on me. Can you transfer with in thr business to move away from the person you don't like working with? would you be happy working in a different industry?
Quitkng only fixes the very immediate issue, but sets you up for more. Maybe take a career break, take 6 months unpaid leave? then get a councillor work through your anxiety and work hard to find a new job, and if that doesn't work out your old one is still there and you have had time to recharge
It’s not worth your health. Once you leave you won’t look back. Just do it!
I had to leave a job for the same reason, loved my co workers but an admin assistant got promoted to acting head of department... power trip is lightly putting it, i was getting abusive calls at 10pm for fixing stuff while she wasn't available and either locked in her office with a do not disturb sign or just not at work at all. HR did nothing. I put out my resume, i had good references, found a job pretty quickly then put in my 3 weeks (to be polite and not burn bridges in case she left). It was actually one of my references that gave me a job, she missed me working for her. I now have a fast paced job but if i tell them they've given me too much work, these bosses will listen and offer an apprentice to help for a bit or similar.
Best advice: find a new job first. That always looks better on your resume, and dumb it down but explain that you are leaving your previous job due to too much stress or having anxiety, if they dont hire you because of your anxiety, they would likely have done the same thing as your old employer.
Good luck.
I left a job I loved as I had issues with my boss and colleague and was unemployed for about 4 months. I regret leaving at times as I loved the work and my purpose helping clients BUT I used that time to work on me and it was the best thing I have ever done. I learnt a lot about myself, my worth and that I am good enough and it’s nothing ok for people to treat you like crap.
The job I obtained after this one had a horrid work culture, 8 people left in the 6 months I was there. I felt I would have stayed there and just put up with it if I hadn’t had that break, but I felt strong enough to to walk away.
I was fortunate that I have a husband that fully supported me and even though I felt like a bloody failure I’ve just started another job that I’d never had applied for in my wildest dreams and I absolutely love it.
Having another job to go to isn’t the be all. You need to weigh up the impact on you in staying. Remember you deserve only happiness xx