I wont go into details, but my long term marriage (4 kids) is basically at the end. I was told last night in a very heated argument the quicker I find a house and move out the better. I've lost my job due to Covid and have no income. How can i possibly move out with no income, just what i looked up on parenting payment, i would get $800 a fortnight. I find this payment ok, but I cant get a rental for anything less than $400. Unless I go to 2 bedroom, but with 4 kids, I dont know how to do that. Has anyone any advice how I can do this? We can sell up everything we have but that will take time as it includes a family farm :( Im not saying I will move out, but I guess if this kind of thing is being said, I need to start planning for something. This all sounds very bland, but i realise I posted a very similar question 5 years ago, so im emotionally drained.
I've been asked to move out (currently married) how do i do it financially?
I've been asked to move out (currently married) how do i do it financially?
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If he expects you to have the kids then he needs to be one who moves out.
He would suggest he could have the kids full time, he did that to me last time :(
Just make sure you put it in writing that its a negotiated arrangement purely due to the strange circumstances of covid lockdown and you gave because one of you had to.
It would give you time to take a break and sort things out, get some support from friends, let him stew in a house alone with kids this is the perfect time to call him on that.
And is there a problem with him having the children?
Well he won't get them full time anyway you have rights that he has no control over so just call him on that.
You definitely need to plan to move on one way or another.
Have you taken into account family tax benefits and other payments?
I’d apply for separated under the one roof for now. So that you can start to get your finances separated and start to make a plane wether he moves out or you do.
He can’t force you to leave.
If he wants to end things he should be the one to bugger off.
Between spp, ftb, rent assistance, child support for four kids you will be fine financially. Or find a cheap small place and leave the kids with their father until you get yourself set up properly
If he wants to leave, tell him to just that!
Tell him to go jump and that your not moving... he knows where the door is.
Is that the whole payment? Parent payment or new start, plus rent assistance, plus ftb a and b, plus child support.
You can do it solo, it's possible, the change seems daunting but it's doable, so don't stop when you feel defeated.
For now I would say to move to someone, like family, or tell him to move. It's quarantine, times are tough. You don't need a stressful household one of you has to go and so if you do child care you stay put with it kids and he goes to a friend/family or if you have somewhere to go with kids just up and do it. Then sort everything else out from there.
Thats just what I found under Single Parenting payment, I really have no idea what I would be able to claim :(
You would also get all the other things as well. It's definitely iveable. Especially if you work, you get that as well as wages.
$800 is just for parenting payment. You can also claim Family Tax Benefit and rent assistance. Child Support too. If you add everything together you'll be fine. There is an extra $550 per fortnight after 27th of April for 6 months also.
The kids need to maintain some normality it's better if he moves out. He will get a place much easier for just him