Not really a question but more so of a vent..
A few weeks ago someone called the police on me to do a welfare check on my child. Stating my child was covered in scratches and bruises..(bruises on her shin, and scratches on her ankle as had fallen over at lunch).
Police weren't concerned as there wasn't anything wrong with her, and closed it off upon inspection of her.
So I started my detective work, and got to work trying to work out who would call them for something so minor..
I asked my family and all denied it..
Fast forward to yesterday, got some shit news so I started putting two and two together which made someone else in my family to confess to calling the police.
It was my dad. My dad lives interstate and had listened to what my pathetic younger sister had made up and told him. The worst part of it was my "sister" told my 10yo that it was her grandpa who called the police, and then not to tell me.
My "father" came up for my bday, but it was more of a spy visit. What a way to enjoy my bday..
I only found out today after he left in a flippin message!! The sad thing was we only spoke about it the day before and he denied it. They have all been laughing at me behind my back
I thought it may have been him or my sister but thought family wouldn't do that.
He didn't even have the human decency to tell me to my face he had done it, just waited till I pushed it and he had left the state.
He is trying to make up all this shit that I'm hurting my children. Bugger me, kids will be kids and get brusies and scratches from playing and falling down. Mind you the bruise was old and fading..
There isn't any more to this story, purely him taking what the sister said and calling the cops.
When I asked why he did what he did, he said that I mentally and physically abuse my children daily. And he is looking out for them.
My children are happy and healthy. And not abused in anyway.
I wish he spoke to me about any concerns he had but he chose to believe a little brat and her make believe shit..
So now I've cut these 2 assholes out of my life.. I'm so hurt and don't understand why family can't just ask.
Hurtful family
Hurtful family
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Your sister sounds like a trouble maker. I would go as far as getting a lawyer to send her a cease and desist letter. Her allegations are very damaging to you, I wouldn't just let it go.
You seem to have left out an important part of this story. Why would you sister make up such a story in the first place?. This is all about how angry you are with your Dad but he’s only going on the information she’s given him. Maybe she’s the person you need to be having a conversation with.
No more information left out..
This is all the story.
My younger sister is a very bitter little person. Everything is a competition for her..money, partners etc.this is the type of person she is, if the attention is not on her than she will stoop to any level to get it back. This "dad" is my step dad. So he would believe anything she would say to him.
Plus it doesn't help that I had another baby when she had a miscarriage about 1 month before I found out I was even pregnant.
She has said my partner beats me *he doesnt*and everything, this is all to hide how miserable her life actually is.
Oh I'm pissed at both of them, but him more so for calling the police and not asking me the truth in the first place. For pushing me for info if i knew who it was that called, and then lying to my face when I seen him.
I wouldnt lie to him, so he could have asked.
Don’t worry about them. You have done the right thing in cutting them off. If he is going to jump like this everytime she tells him something than you you are better off without them both. She sounds toxic! You may need to mention it to the school councillor or someone because now you’ve cut them off she might try and stoop lower and keep going with it. Give the school and anyone else warning. If she contacts you or threatens you then get an avo on her so she can’t. What a psycho.!
I’ve no advice but can see what a hurtful situation it is. Good on you for putting in boundaries and having nothing more to do with them. You and you children don’t need this in your lives.
Hopefully you’ll be able to have a talk with them about why this has happened.
Wow... you have done the right thing. No one in their right mind would do this. They would actually offer help and support and ask you rather than do what they have done. She sounds like a shit stirer and you dad has acted on what he has been told. He should have confronted you or asked you. It’s a bit much going straight to the police. Different if they witnessed abuse and your kids are neglected but they obviously aren’t.
I refuse to speak to my family for similar reasons. It's been 4 years and I've really come to be at peace with it. Plus, my life is extra peaceful.
Toxic is toxic. Family or not.
I'm sorry you have to go through this but if they're genuinely like this fairly regularly, let yourself see that and allow yourself the space to grow without them. You'll be thankful for it ♡