Hi Mums
*I am soon seeking medical advice, just want to know if this is in any way normal*
I had my first baby 2 years ago and was traumatised by the experience, although physically it could have been a lot worse (hospital tell me my delivery was normal but aren't trying to belittle my experience). It was bad enough for me that I have requested a csection for my upcoming second and last baby, due in March.
Following the birth of my first I have been mostly fine with sex but flinch when touched in vagina area by hubby's hands during foreplay.
I don't mind if he plays with me with his hands during actual sex, but as foreplay it doesn't feel good and I just want it to stop.
It makes my skin crawl and he has likened my reaction to what he imagines it's like to be with an abuse victim. I have never been abused and love my husband to death. No issues there.
Once my second baby is out and I am done with babies I plan to seek gynecological and therapeutic advice. Therapy had already started but I'm not focussing on this particular issue until baby is out via csec and I know I will never be going through this again (I don't want to start healing and then start over if i end up with a natural birth)
Until then I am curious if this physical aversion to being touched is normal at all. I feel miserable about it and hate making hubby unhappy as well.
2 Replies
Have you discussed this with your GP?
I would imagine there would be a wide range of "normal" reactions to this type of experience. For what it's worth, I reckon hubby's on the money.
As well as speaking to your doctor, seek out some support: https://www.birthtrauma.org.au/