My partner works away for a week at a time. During this time I am at home as a carer for our special needs 8 year old. I however work 3 days the weekends (previously 7 days before becoming a carer) sometimes often doing long shifts I'm 2IC nurse on the weekends. When partner is home with our son he is alot better at managing his behaviours and he either has him on electronic games all day or sends him to the grandparents so that he can relax usually sleeps all day or plays electronic games as well. The problem is when I pull him up for not helping around the house he degrades and devalues my job as a parent and nurse because my hours of work dont equate to his 70+hour week. I am drowning in exhaustion from being on a carer on my own Monday to Friday and then all psychological and emotional turmoil that experience from a day at work. Only to come home and have to pick up after him and get put down for complaining about being tired. I'm sick of putting up with it and feeling like I have no right to complain for being exhausted. Maybe even jealousy? Resentment When do I get to relax and sit around and do nothing like him am I seriously that invisible.
Partner degrades and devalues my career and my job as a parent.
Sunday, 17 November 2019 - 22:11
Partner degrades and devalues my career and my job as a parent.
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My ex was the same ! He felt entitled to tell me what a shit job I was doing and a parent when I was doing twice as much as him when he was away and when he was back ! I realised he was grained this way and I eventually realised he had a golden excuse for everything! I got sick of him sick of his bad accountability and bad parenting or lack of thereof and no help but the fact he worked away and earned more did not amount to shit ! I cut him loose after years of his childish bullshit, I thrived and he is still at the same shit tell your man to ship up or ship out! Your doing everything on your own and when he has to man up and be dad and everything else you will have plenty of time to yourself may be what you need to do good luck
I'm sorry, I got as far as you're a nurse and he degrades and devalues what you do. Punch him in the cock and let every nurse within 200km know why they shouldn't help him. I just can't believe someone would be so incredibly stupid. Nurses are one of the main arteries of society, I value what you do highly. Very highly. I reckon with him, what you see is what you get. You can accept it as it is, you can force him to help and battle it constantly or you can tell him 168 hour weeks at work are waiting for him.