Hi Mama’s
My eldest son is from a previous relationship. We have a fantastic relationship with his dad, they generally spend every second weekend together, and sometimes he will help out taking him to his sports training which he does up to 3 nights a week and also on weekends. This week he will be moving house, 6 hours away from us. We are understandably upset for my son. He currently lives with me, my husband and his two younger brothers. He will go from seeing his dad every fortnight to only once a month. His dad has to move due to work commitments. My son so far is assuring us that he is ok, but I’m really worried about him and how much he is going to miss his dad.
I guess my question is, has anyone been in this situation? Firstly I would like advice on how to help my son through the changes and make it as easy as possible for him. And secondly of course, what strategies can I take to make sure our co parenting relationship stays as great as it is currently.
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If you don’t think your son is going to cope with his dad being so far away is it a possibility that he goes with him?
What an odd suggestion. If the son goes with his dad, granted he won’t be missing dad but he will be missing his sport, friends, mum, step dad and siblings.
OP: FaceTime will help with missing his dad, phone calls, photos, writing letters and the offer for dad to be present and major games or milestone that would otherwise sit outside his regular contact.
It’s only natural he’ll miss dad and all you can do is just love him a little more with more patience’s that usual and a lot of understanding (which you seem to have). It’s not how often a child sees a parent but how involved that parent is when they see their child. Dads can see their kids every week and do nothing with them or they can see their kids every month and dedicate that time to their child.... I know which kid will be happier.
Best of luck x