Gift for pregnant daughter in law

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Gift for pregnant daughter in law

My son is expecting a baby with his partner, they are quite young (high school age) so it was a bit of a shock, however I want to be a supportive grandmother and mother in law and I'm wondering if i should buy something for her or the baby? Like a momento of sorts?
When I was pregnant with my first I was given a pregnancy journal that I wrote in and I loved it, is this still a thing? Or a bit outdated?
Were you given anything by your in-laws when pregnant?
What would be appropriate?
And any advice of being a good mother in law would be appreciated!
Thanks

Posted in:  Life Lessons, Pregnancy

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Anonymous

I had 2 of my kids while i was still a teen, this whole thing just warmed my heart lol.

I think some kind of pregnancy/ baby milestone book or journal is a really thoughtful gift. Someone gave me something like that and i loved it, it made me feel like i was actually allowed to celebrate and enjoy my pregnancy in a time where everyone kept reminding me about how un-ideal my situation was.

Other than that, just be present, supportive and offering as much practical help as you can whilst still letting them figure things out on their own.

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Anonymous

If they're poor she would really appreciate a pregnancy photo shoot or even a nice comfy preggo outfit & take her out somewhere to take them for her.
And also those keepsake handprints of newborn baby.

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Anonymous

My ex mother in-law brought me a pandora bracelet and gave it to me the day my daughter was born. Every mother’s day she brought me a new charm from my baby. This continued even after I left her son up until she passed. The bracelet will be given to my daughter when she is older

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Anonymous

That's so lovely

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Anonymous

I would of loved for my MIL to give me gifts, more then gifts for my baby. I was a mum at 21 and would of loved a pregnancy journal, I don't think they are outdated at all.

Also I always appreciated being asked what I specifically needed. I'd rather people buy something I need/wanted rather than something I knew I wouldn't use. Ask her if she's got a list of things and offer to buy something from the list.

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Anonymous

I had my baby young and I loved getting baby stuff when I was pregnant because I had no money to buy any until I had given birth. If it's the same story for her she will probably love a shopping trip for baby clothes and stuff like that? Even if it's just looking to get an idea. I think baby shopping gets everyone excited and can be a good day, just remember to keep your advice as tips only, don't say things like "no, don't buy one of those" more like,"I had one of those when mine were babies and I found it was a waste of money". So it doesn't come across as though you're telling her what to do but just telling your own experience.

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Anonymous

I didn't keep the journals as just forgot and once bubs was here I didn't have time.

Just buying things like clothing (for your DIL and the baby) was a hugely appreciated thing my MIL got me, especially maternity pants as I struggled fitting into mine quick smart. Maybe even offering to take side on photos each week to document her pregnancy/body changes is something so precious!!!

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Anonymous

Massage if she's sore? Photo shoot? Pram? Cot? Stylish maternity clothes? Stylish breast feeding dresses or tops? Baby monitor? Manicure? Pedicure? Gym membership for after bubs arrives? Baby carrier (to wear)? I guess it depends what you feel she would appreciate/value.

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Anonymous

I wish somebody would have gotten me a pamper day. 2-3 weeks before the baby is due, by that stage you feel huge and gross and well and truly over it. Hair cut, mani+pedi, massage day ect. Make her feel better about herself before she is to exhausted after the baby is born

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Anonymous

As someone who has just had a baby thr best presents people gave us were practical gifts such as baby monitor, car seat BUT the 2 presents that hit me right in the feels and made me ugly cry - baby milestones book like we had when we were kids and a gorgeous hand made blanket. If you think a pregnancy journal is a good gift you give them that... the presents that come from the heart are the ones that hold the most value

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Anonymous

I was in your situation. Just be as supportive as possible. Offer advice but don't get offended if they don't take it. Give them space, they will come and ask if they need anything. And don't nag. Even if you see them doing something you dont think is right or believe in, let them be and make mistakes. Mistakes is how we grow. And whatever you do - do not take over when they come to visit or if they live with you. Respect your son and daughter in laws wishes - especially when they leave bubs with you.

In relation to a gift, my hubby and I gave necessities. I told my daughter in law to look on Facebook Marketplace for things she needed. She found the cot, change table and chest of drawers for the babies room. so we bought all of that. (We also filled one of the of drawers with nappies.) My daughter in law was also big on shopping at second hand places, as she realised she couldn't afford new stuff and it also helped others in the same situation by giving back.

Wish you and your kids the best of luck x

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Amanda Belanger

I was 18 got pregnant the in laws bought Baby’s First Pooh.

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