I’m a mother to 2 adult children, 1 high school and 1 primary school.
Last year I became friendly with a mother in my youngest sons class. From the third play date I noticed some behavioural issues with both my sons friend (7) and his younger sibling (5). This ranged from disrespectful speaking to their parents to full blown physical and verbal abuse towards both parents and each other. Punching their parents in the face, calling them c***s and beating each other to the point of such damage being done, I’m fearful of their capabilities. The eldest one has dragged the youngest one into our pool area on more than one occasion and tried to throw him into the pool without a floatie on (he can’t swim). This resulted in me banning them from coming over to swim again. He’s also choked the youngest one to almost unconsciousness on a few occasions.
The biggest concern for me, besides this disgusting behaviour, was that fact both parents tried to ignore the behaviour and would reward the children (after an outburst) with anything to calm them both down.
Over the course of 12 months I’ve witnessed more abuse then I could count on my hands and feet. I’ve tried speaking to her about their behaviour and when I gently brought the issue up, she’d respond with the older child has anxiety and the younger one is fine!
After many months of being there for her, when other parents have walked away and not engaged in conversation or play dates, I’m done! The final straw was my son being punched in the face by his ‘friend’ for not agreeing with what the friend was saying and the youngest one hitting him with a large rock, whilst at another childs party.
I guess my question now, would as a mother, who is witnessing this horrific behaviour between siblings and being unable to rule out what is happening, if anything, to these children that could be contributing to their behaviour.
Would you walk away and forget about it all or perhaps speak to the school about what I’ve witnessed and express my concerns? There’s been many previous complaints from other mothers about the physical abuse from the older child towards their children. Or just mind my own business?