Are gut instincts usually right?
My husband and I have been married a long time, 3 kids in school, and I’m currently unwell, physically and struggling a bit emotionally
I met a mum at school, she was lovely.... well seemed it, also married, new to the area, we chatted a fair bit, kids the same age etc.... then her and my hubby met up, started playing social sport on the same team, and she’s completely changed towards me, she will not say a word to me unless he’s around, I’ll send her a message to ask a question, she’ll message him with the answer
She messages him all day every day, just ‘chatting’ my gut is actually screaming at me not to trust her, I’ve told hubby I do not like her, she’s rude to me if he’s not around, and it annoys me that they’re messaging all the time, he doesn’t understand why I don’t like her, I’ve explained why, I’ve explained that i find her fake and rude etc and that I don’t trust her.....
This is where I’m annoyed..... he now no longer tells me about their chatting all day, last night even mentioned a message but kind of brushed it off as it was to her AND her husband..... I know it wasn’t because his messenger is logged in on the iPad, so I do believe he knows I’d be angry if I knew..... I also know I probably shouldn’t have looked, but my gut is telling me there is /will end up being more going on, and I don’t know if I’m being silly, but if my husband came to me and said that one of my friends was disrespectful towards him I’d distance myself, I’d not be inviting them out for dinners with our family, and trying to organise weekend activities with them!!!
Need to add too, that in general I have NO issue with him having female friends, he has a lot, some that he rings during the day, texts, catches up with etc.... but this one in particular is making me feel absolutely sick to my stomach