Sometimes my husband and I aren’t in sync ie. right now when he’s asleep and I’m awake and horny. When do couples masturbate?! Is it only ok when the other isn’t around? I feel like that’s not a sex positive view but I also don’t know if I could just masturbate next to a sleeping husband and I feel shady going off and doing it somewhere else.. even writing this I’m answering my own question that this is deep-seated patriarchal bullshit and I need to just get down to business!!
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If my husband and I have any moments where one wants sex and the other doesn’t , He will either masturbate in front of me , or on his own . He will sometimes watch porn in his own time to help him along , or just feeling my naked boobs is enough for him while I read or something as he plays with himself . We have been together almost 20 years and have never watched porn together, only by ourselves .
For me though, it’s more private . I will do it totally alone , sometimes with porn , sometimes without , I don’t feel comfortable doing it with him around . He knows I do it , because I tell him and vice verse . We have no problem with each other doing this .
I start feeling mine up on his sleep and see if he wants a bit. He does the same to me.
I don’t watch porn I just see if I can get the real thing.
Depends, I have a higher libido than my husband. In the past he’s wanked in front of me to porn but now days he has no interest, just wants sex every few weeks (although he’s home alone one day a week and he sometimes has a wank to porn).
I tend to masturbate during the night or when he has left for work if I’m lucky enough and the kid is asleep still. Otherwise on a weekend as we alternate when we sleep in :) I watch porn often.
My husband and I both regularly watch porn and masturbate individually. We also have a great sex life. Do what you need to do girl!
I would definitely do it next to the sleeping husband! Personally having a partner who does not have sex with me and has used porn for years to meet his needs (as he doesn't want me in that way) I have no choice but to masturbate myself. I prefer a real connection with my partner but I have had no say in how things are. So go ahead given you have a healthy sex life :)
Tap him on the shoulder.. when my hubby is asleep and I want sex he loves it when I wake him up by giving him a little suck.
I masturbate next to my sleeping partner, often.
He doesn't have sex with me more than once or twice a month. But I also do it in the lounge room when he's in bed.
He masturbates all the time when he's on night shift 😒 it "helps him get to sleep". I'm not good enough to have sex with though?
I’m the same... not good enough for sex!!! My heart breaks every day and every rejection. He says it’s not me... but I call bullshit.
However I don’t masturbate near him or when he is home... I take every opportunity that he isn’t home for a quick self pleasure.