Sometimes my husband and I aren’t in sync ie. right now when he’s asleep and I’m awake and horny. When do couples masturbate?! Is it only ok when the other isn’t around? I feel like that’s not a sex positive view but I also don’t know if I could just masturbate next to a sleeping husband and I feel shady going off and doing it somewhere else.. even writing this I’m answering my own question that this is deep-seated patriarchal bullshit and I need to just get down to business!!