I have been with my husband for 18yrs this year (married for 8 of them). Understandably it hasn’t always been easy sailing from his health issues and a serious car accident 2 years ago, but for some strange reason and I don’t know why but I keep thinking he is having an affair with someone who up til the end of last year I thought was a friend. She had admitted to me in the past that she had no dramas looking for relations outside of her own marriage and had invited my husband into groups that well let’s say I wouldn’t invite my friends husbands to and he had made a comment about rooting her when I rang him one day on my way home from work.
Today I asked him if he missed talking to her as he always looks towards her house when we drive past (I called her out and she didn’t deny it) and he told me I was crazy. Thus isn’t the first time I have though he has at least thought about straying.
I did briefly speak to my dr about some of my thoughts and she thinks it maybe the pill (yaz) and has suggested that I look into the merina (sorry if I spelt wrong) as this could be a side effect or just the case that I’m extremely close into turning 40 like nxt month.
I do love my husband like crazy but these thoughts are slowly destroying me
Am I going crazy?
Am I going crazy?
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He might be innocent but you were given reasons to be suspicious. They gave you reasons to be suspicious. Don't write yourself off as bitchy and hormonal.
I think hormonal contraceptives usually make you moody and bitchy in a way that, when he leaves his work boots in the door way, you huff and puff or crack it at his laziness. And that, is completely normal because females are designed to have hormones which are ever changing and going up and down. Since you’re nearing menopause/Pre stages, your hormones definitely would be changing. And your doctor probably is right about looking into another form.
BUT I don’t feel like that’s why you are suspicious your husband is cheating. All the reasons you stated have ME suspicious too. And I feel like he is super guilty. You need to have a big chat to him and get to the bottom of it so you can either, move on (if it isn’t true) or leave (because you deserve better).
Either way he is disrespectful talking about rooting her to you. He probably is. Go with your gut, it doesn’t lie.! check his phone, messages anything get snooping!
I agree! Look at his phone, do some investigating!
Why would he make a comment about rooting her???? And she has no issues looking elsewhere! Most people would be suspicious!