I have been a stay at home Mum for 11 years and have 3 children, youngest being almost 2. Hubby is FIFO. I need a break. Hubby and I are fighting a lot and I’m so stressed lately with everything (lots going on not just being Mum). I want to go away for the weekend by myself. I feel like I can’t though, I can think up a million reasons why I shouldn’t. Youngest still Breastfeeds, hubby is on break and will have to have the kids by himself, it’s not fair on him, it’s not fair on the kids, I should be coping with everything. Mum guilt is killing me and stopping me from doing what I feel I really need to for my own mental health and well being. If I go will I even be able to relax and rest or will the guilt just eat me up. Not sure what to do.
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Hi mumma! Mum guilt is such a real thing, hey?
Firstly, your 2yo will be fine without breastmilk, he/she is old enough to survive on full milks and no milk. So push that one aside and I would stop using that excuse (change your mindset). Not saying don't breastfeed though, it's such a beautiful experience and bond to continue it on. More just saying, for the sake of a weekend forget about it.
Hubby isn't on a break, he's back to the reality of having a family which he decided to have with you. So it's his turn to step up and do the parenting. See this as "your work" and now you need a break which you never ever get.
The kids will be fine, the youngest may cry when you leave for a few minutes but I can almost guarantee they won't care after 15 minutes :) it's just the first few moments that you leave.
I really struggled and over the weekend finally bit that bullet and went out. Had a blast, felt so great coming home and just all in all it was everything I needed.
I don't think going alone is the way to go though, do you have a girlfriend or family member to go along with you? Someone to distract you during those quiet missing my kids time?
Have booked my holiday and hubby is very supportive of this. Visiting a friend for 4 nights. Thank you for your reply helped me make up my mind ❤️