I need some advice
For context
We go to a small rural school. We all own live stock and our children witness the live stock reproduce we are a close knit community
If your child came to you telling you that another child was crutch bumping them.
Would you
A) go to the other child’s parent and talk to them about it
Or
B) approach the Principal and discuss it with them
Please note
I have spoken to my child about it, told them if they were to do it again to put their hand out, push them away and say
******* “STOP don’t do that, I don’t like it! and then go and talk to a teacher about the incident.
I feel contacting the school would give them the heads up about the situation and maybe they can talk to the parents about the situation. Rather than me suffering anxiety about speaking to the parents (who are lovely)
My child did mention a younger student was doing the same thing but to another child their own age
Could it have just been children being children? Am I reading to much in to it?
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What age? My son did a random dance move like that at a school disco when he was little and I had to explain that we don't copy daddy's bad dance moves haha. Never happened again.
The children involved are between 4 and 7
Definitely not dance moves from how my child was describing it (They felt very uncomfortable with the situation and needed reassurance that it was ok to tell them to stop)
Both instances were of different genders - as mums we get a long well but I still feel anxious about it
I would approach the teacher first. Another parent may not take this well from you.
Let the teacher observe.
Absolutely encourage your son as you have to say - stop I don’t like it and seek out teacher.
Approach the teacher and let them guide the situation.
School behaviour, let school handle it. Unless youre close friends theres a chance it will go against you, parents can be very highly strung over the smallest things, no matter how simple you think it might be.
Definitely talk to the teacher. These things are often quickly dealt with by the teacher, with supervision and a chat to the entire class about appropriate behaviour.
If my child has done something inappropriate at school, I'd much rather hear about it from their teacher or the principal than another parent.
It's just more diplomatic and unbiased that way.
I would talk to the principal as it can then be raised at the school if its other children as well. Be with your child when they question him and dont let it be swept under the carpet. Also make sure your child hasnt been psychologically dmaged by taking him to school counsellor if they have one.