Ok girls I need to know if I have over reacted. Honest opinions - I think I have and now I feel like shit and think I’m about to have a panic attack so hope this makes sense. I did write in 6 months ago about this after I rang him and got some feedback.
My dad has been making seductive comments on Instagram on other woman’s walls, stuff you should only say to your wife.
I saw it early last year and it made me sick so I blocked it out of my mind. Kept happening and rang him to see what was going on (around august?) He told me that it wasn’t fair on mum to be saying those things and thanks for pulling him up because it showed I cared. He did put a bit of blame on mum about it because of the way she talks to him. (She reacts to the way he talks to her.) He said he would delete those pages etc. I think he was just really embarrassed and put on the spot but he promised to changed.
Two weeks later and he was back at it. So I have been liking all of his comments when I stumble across them. He deletes some pages and stops for a bit then back at it.
*I just sent him a text saying that I am heartbroken and disappointed , that I’ve been so conflicted on how I feel about him for a long time and he’s put me in an awkward position. I guess this is just the person you really are.
**He text back: what are you talking about ?
*I responded with: I think you know what I’m talking about and do I really have to send screen shots
**about what
*so I sent screen shots
**he responded with : why because I like something. I have told you before there is nothing in it. Stop stalking me
*i then sent him: 👍
I then deleted him off Instagram and Facebook.
We live at opposite ends of the state and only see each other on average 1-2 times a year but FaceTime with the kids every week. I have no intention of telling mum. I was just hoping that my text would make him think about what he is doing.
If my mum wrote that kind of stuff it would be a totally different story. She does everything for him and all he does is sit in front of the tv or he’s on his phone. He is a grumpy man who is stubborn and likes doing things his way.
Have I just made a stupid mistake ? I feel sick now that I can’t take it back.
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Tell ur mum already! She deserves to know!
Yeah I would be telling your mum.
On your previous post I said givr your dad a chance to stop (tick) and if he doesn't, then your mum needs to know about it...
What kind of stuff is it? Are they women with thousands of followers and he's saying things like "You're beautiful" or do they personally know each other and he's saying things like hey sexy let's meet up this weekend? First scenario, please ignore you're making a mountain out of a molehill. It would be like my husband getting seriously jealous if I posted how sexy Brad Pitt is (which I wouldn't do but just putting it into context- there's no threat to our relationship at all if I have a crush on a celebrity). If its the second scenario then there is cause for concern because there is a chance he can follow through with his flirting/admiration.
If you're not willing to tell your mum, I think deleting him off all socials is probably the only way you'll cope. What you don't know can't hurt you so to speak.
One thing I’ve learnt, is my parents marriage is none of my effing business. What either of my parents know or don’t know is not my job to monitor.
Just like it’s not my job to parent my parents. You’d be surprised at what your mum already knows. It’s quite possible she just doesn’t want to bother confronting him, or doesn’t care that he behaves this way.
You had your chance to tell her what you had seen months ago. Your time has passed. Block him on special media and stay out of it