So I tore a ligament in my knee a few weeks ago and have been in horrific pain since, today finally got into the pyshio and have a strapped knee and on crutches
According to my partner I’ve been cranky for the 4 weeks I’ve been in pain for, I haven’t been trying to be cranky at him or take it out on him. I’ve been continuing on with life and not really complaining
However tonight he set me off because my face cream fell into his undie drawer and he threw it on the floor and I got shitty and said pick it up and put it back on the shelf and he said that I’ve been a horrible mole for 4 weeks and that being in pain doesn’t excuse that.
I don’t remember being cranky at him at all or even asking him to do anything extra besides tonight asking him to pick up the cream.
He is currently sulking and won’t talk to me.
I guess just needed to vent. And I want to know if I’m being nasty by asking him to pick up the crean
4 Replies
I've been on crutches, moving around ain't exactly easy, my brother injured himself and like you was on crutches with a strapped knee. He could barely hobble to the toilet, much less bending down to pick something up. You asked him to pick up something he threw, it's not like you were deliberately pitching things around the room demanding he pick them up. Hardly unreasonable!!
If you genuinely haven't treated him in a shitty way over this time, then I'd say he's just being insensitive and inconsiderate.
If my partner was behaving like this I'd let him know that sulking is the singlehandedly most unattractive and juvenile thing a grown ass person can do and if he wished to discuss and resolve his problem in a mature way, to come and talk to me...
Everyone knows pain = angry. Yes you can be angry, but you cant take it out on him. Think about how youve spoken to him previously to the cream and then decide.
I work in allied health and generally, most people in pain are cranky. So you may have been without realising. That said, he acted like a dick over something ridiculous. That can happen when someone is under pressure too. You probably both need to take responsibility, apologise and clear the air.
Being in chronic pain is hard on you and hard to watch a loved one go through. If you have reflected and believe that you’re not taking it out on others then it’s probably him worrying and hates seeing you like that? Or could be the man thing of having to do more, not getting enough attention and their limited empathy. Mine sulks when I’m having seizures or migraines (my migraines cause brain swelling symptoms). Then if it goes on too long, he panics and thinks there’s something wrong and sends me awful text messages and gets snappy and me.
I’m starting to think this behaviour is not ok but just wanted to reply to you as it could be a man thing?