Hey single dad here just want a perspective from other mums my sons mother n her partner are having a child together unfortunately she now decided that she doesn’t want to be a mother to my son and her other daughter would rather be a mother to her girlfriend kids should I just cut her out of my sons life or keep her in
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how old is your son?
Just turned 10
I think it's better to cut her off altogether. It's better to have no mother than an inconsistent one that continuously disappoints and hurts your son.
Always try and keep the relationship going for your sons sake. They can really suffer emotionally which impacts self esteem, mental health and behaviour. If your ex won't have him at all then get your son to see a counsellor and don't be scared to ask for help from the adults in his life so he feels supported. My ex did this to our two kids after having kids to a third person and its heartbreaking, there really are some very self centred people in the world that don't deserve to be a parent but our kids always deserve to have both parents if its possible.
Don't cut her out, just don't chase her. If your son wants to talk to her, let him call her, let him ask her to meet up on those calls. But do not go out of your way to chase her down.
My hubby regrets hiding the rejection from his kids. He made so many excuses and now his kids don't talk to him, because mums turned around and said he was the one who stopped contact. The therapist we have for the younger kids said as hard as it is. You shouldn't shelter your kids from the rejection from a parent. But guide them through it.