I have two children to a man who was very abusive. We separated years ago and the emotional and psychological abuse still occurred. He refused to pay child support, would try and argue every drop off and pick up. He would also take every opportunity to name call, belittle me and blame me for how horrible his life was. A few months ago, he suddenly moved interstate. While I was relieved, our children were heart broken (they are 7 and 4) from the looks of it, he is living his best life in the new state and while I'm happy for him, i can't help but feel a little jealous. I have 100% custody of our children with little to no help. I've had to give up uni because there was no one to watch the kid's (as I do late afternoon classes so I can still work full time) he is out most nights and every weekend. While I don't want that lifestyle, it would be nice to have a break every now and then. Am I a horrible person for feeling this way?
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You are not horrible!
You’re not horrible! Maybe look at hiring a babysitter once a month on a set night and take yourself out to the movies, a pub for some drinks, to get your nails done or whatever else! Do some you stuff :)
Hubby and I want to 'divorce my mum' so we can do week on week off care with her lol. Our divorced friends have way more flexibility and social life than we do... But we want the time out from the kids for each other so we can't divorce lol. You're not awful. Doing it alone would be exhausting. Get a group of people and take turns giving each other time out.
Don't give up on your study!! You can still do one or two units.. it doesn't have to be full time.
When the 4 year old is in school you can take advantage of before and after school.
Try and find something for you and makes you happy. Even if that is just a bath or a home workout when they're asleep.
You can do it mumma.