Hi. I have two teenage daughters who are absolutely out of control. They swear at me bully me and treat me like I’m nothing. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve been suggested family counselling but I don’t think it’s gonna work. Does anyone else have this problem with their teenage daughters because I feel very alone
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Hugs to you teenagers are monsters. Counselling is a good idea even if you are the only one that goes, they will give you some great advice. In the meantime try not to let them over power you. Turn the internet off and take the modem for a nice long drive the hell away from them. Go all day.
Start making them do everything for themselves. Cleaning, cooking, washing, finding a way home from school when they behave like that! Living under your roof they need to show you 100% respect and love. If they can't do that, then your home will not be "home" for them (home but not pleasant).
Why do you think it wont work? When i was a teen i had a horrible relationship with my mum she used to tell me im so crazy shes thinking about taking me to counseling, like it was the worst thing. She never did. I think it could have helped, not going definitely didnt change anything.
As much as they are horrible to you its now more than ever they need love. Counselling is a great idea, talking to them when its calm is a good idea. Just never stop showing them love - i was that horrible teenager & all I wanted was people to stop leaving & when they didn't I was sabotaging the relationship so I wouldn't get hurt - crazy I know. But I know that now as a 40 year old. So big hugs, make sure you also have some support/to vent to & good luck xxoo
You don’t know unless you give it a try. I guess your daughters would have to agree to it, some teenagers refuse counselling. Or you can go alone. It seems like you have let them over power you, you need to take the power back and stand up for yourself. If it’s to the point where there are out of control you need hard discipline. Stop doing everything for them, take away their appliances and get them to earn it back by giving you respect. Or worst case kick them out if nothing else works. Have you let them know how much it hurts you, how they treat you? Counseling or talking to them one on one honestly about how each other is feeling. Why are they so nasty to you?
My sisters teenage son moved state to his dads, he wasn’t talking to his mum anymore and I worked out he was probably fed up with all the different men she was getting with and all the arguments with them (divorced twice) plus boyfriends