Hello I know this is the age old questions that’s asked often.
Whether or not to repeat kinder.
My child is born in December and has asd. A second year is available for kinder because of factors such as speech is a bit difficult to understand and socially behind.
We could either send him to school at 5 or wait another year and send when he is 6.
Acedemically he is extremely clever and ready in that sense.
His teacher is unsure and as are we. We could send him and socially in the playground it would be a struggle for him. He is often silly and doesn’t know correct behaviours. He was assessed at being at the age of 2 socially.
But we are unsure if a second year will help. He wants to go to school but we know he will drown in the playground and will go along with whatever people tell him to do. However we don’t know at what age he may catch up.
I would love to hear from people that have sent them when they are younger, as in born later in the year (autism aside) and whether you have regretted it or socially if they have caught up eventually or you wish you gave them another year. Also, even as they have gotten older such as later in high school whether you wish they were the older rather than youngest.
Struggling to make the decision. Thanks
To repeat kinder
To repeat kinder
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My boy is a December baby. He started Kindy/kindergarten at 4, He did pre-primary/prep at 5 and started year 1 at 6. He is incredibly smart and does get lost in the crowd. I've always made him wear a bright coloured hat so he can be seen by the duty teachers. He's never been lost in the crowd and sometimes does silly things but I honestly have never regretted sending him to school. Some kids will never catch up. You just need to find the right school where he is supported with good kids that accept him.
Last year my son was 3. He was in 3 year old preschool (kinder) and socially and speech wise and behavior wise he was not ready to move up to 4 year old preschool (kinder).
We repeated 3 year old kinder this year and the improvement in his behaviour this year is amazing however I am so glad of our decision to have him repeat because I could no way imagine him being ready for school next year. He will be doing 4 year old kinder next year instead, and we will be deciding at the end of next year whether he will be ready for school in 2019.
Honestly, you know hes not ready so don't put pressure on him to hurry up and be ready. Repeat a year. It sounds like itd the best decision. :)
I had a January autistic baby, I sent him at 5 and regret it to this day (he's almost 10)
My youngest autistic baby was 5 last march, I kept her for another year so she'll be starting next year and I am so so so glad I did, a year made a huge difference for her, and I got extra time with my baby, win all round, for her, her school and me
I think the longer the better. School is full of expectation all day long it can be very draining and there is a big difference in kids ability to cope and help themselves even in that year from from 5 to 6.
My son is 17, born in Feb, he has ASD. I started his older sister later, she’s March, she’s now at Uni. So it was a no brainer to delay him. It was very common at our kinder too (Vic)
Best decision ever! It’s the social side that hits hard when they reach high school, even if academically they are doing well. Give him another year, that’s a whole year of working on his social skills and building confidence and resilience
I have been debating this even though my little one is only 3 atm.
The best bit of info I received from a teacher is that it's far easier to cater for multiple academic levels than it is to cater for multiple social levels.
I'd keep him back if you're unsure. There's nothing wrong with starting later. If anything, it's beneficial