I have been a single Mum for 5 months, previously a sahm now working full time.
I'm so busy so when the kids ask for take away I say yes (often sushi, so health not the issue) when they ask for a movie at night I say yes. When they ask for new toys I say yes as it keeps them happy and busy.
I hate being home all weekend so we go to the Zoo, playcentre, aquarium, movies etc a lot!
I feel sad they don't have a normal family so Christmas and birthdays I go overboard with presents and parties.
BUT they are happy, well behaved children. Do you think I'm spoiling them? Does anyone else do this?
Single mum spoiling kids
Single mum spoiling kids
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No, you're not spoiling them! You're showering them in love in a way that works for your family.
Don't feel sad or guilty that they don't have a "normal" family, what is normal now days anyways?!
If it works for you, don't question it or change anything. As long as they have respect and are healthy kids then you're doing a lot better than some!!!!
No youre not spoiling them. We live exactly like this. Every easter and christmas Im that person on social media telling everyone else to mind their own about how others do it. What I do is my choice they dont know we have no family dinner, noone to visit, should we sit at home with two toys because some twat on facebook said so?! No! We work hard, play hard, love hard,and i know for a fact my kids are kind, caring, generous, polite, intelligent, respectful and most importantly theyre experiencing life, theyre hapy and learning about themselves and what they love. And Im happy too, I love our lifestyle.
Youre doing a great job. Its always the same old mantra with parenting - if its not a problem for you, its not a problem. Ignore what anyone else thinks.
I think it doesn't hurt to say no occasionally. As a single parent myself i have to remind myself I'm raising an adult who needs to cope with a world where they can't always have everything that they want.
Teaching your child to handle the word no occasionally is a good thing. So I'd just test the waters a bit. Occassionally say no, not today, next week etc. test the waters. If they can cope with that then you don't have a problem. If they can't cope with that then it's time to pull in the reins a bit.
Great response
Great response