Hey IM's,
I'm a single mum to a beautiful 3.5 year old. She doesn't go to her dad unsupervised he visits once a week at McDonald's etc.
I think my daughter hates me. She doesn't do affection anymore. She constantly tells me she loves everyone else everytime I tell her I love or miss her.
Saturday night I went out (didn't drink just went to a friends party for a few hours) and she slept at my sisters house. I went to pick her up sunday and she cried screamed kicked told me to go away she wanted to stay there. She's been unwell and has a problem of sooking about everything lately. She's been throwing up day daycare and a few other things and we're seeing dr after dr. She's got low iron as well so many health things atm. She gets upset when you mention daycare and doesn't want to go. Only started in the last month or so not wanting to go to daycare.
Than today she spewed at daycare and I couslnt leave work. I work full time. I asked my other sister if she could go get her (spewing is part of her health issues atm). My sister did and than went to drop her to my dad until I got home. She didn't want to stay with him. She was screaming and crying she wanted a sleep over at Aunty mels. I phoned her and asked if she wanted to come home and she said no and started sooking.
I don't play with her as much as I'd like. She was sick for a week and k spent loads of time with her and she was such a good child I had the week off work.
I'm sitting in the lounge crying wondering where I've gone wrong. What have j don't to make my child hate me. She never wants to be with me lately and she asks me to play but sooks about everything so I tell her Im not playing till she stops.
We love across the road from my parents and she always wants to be there she never wants to be home.
She always yells at me screams at me hits kicks. She used to be a wonderful little girl. I miss that little girl. I don't know where I've gone so wrong. I don't know if moving so close to my parents was such a good idea. When k separated we lived a 5 min drive away and I think ever since being so close and spending so much time at my parents I've noticed the difference.
I don't know how to fix this or what to do. I've missed out time together and I've been trying to look for part time work but haven't had any luck. I do get up her but I don't hit her or anytbing but I do yell at her from time to time and I dk raise my voice to try and get her to listen over her sooking. Apparently she's a wonderful child everywhere else with my family. I don't know what I've done wrong.
Child not liking mummy.
Child not liking mummy.
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Is it just possible she loves her grandparents and aunts more at the moment because they spoil her, and give in to her whims etc?
It's quite normal. For kids to feel this way, they don't understand what the word love even means properly yet. To them at this age, it's who ever gives them the most attention, lets them get away with murder and who gives in to there whims!
But it sounds like you need to relax and just play, have fun. Breath
They go out into the world and they are angels, but they show their dark side to the one person they know loves them completely and unconditionally. You are her safe place and don't be afraid to continue disciplining her as you are, to make her "love" you! I'm a single working mum too, it's tough but I am sure you are doing an amazing job, this shall pass.
Omg. This brought back memories.
My youngest son was just like this. He told me he hated me. He loved everyone else. Blah blah blah...
I remember getting really excited when he said 'I hate her' instead of calling me 'him' (he had all brothers and referred to everyone and everything as a him). I hugged him and praised him lol. He was so confused!
Don't read to much into it. We hurt the ones we love the most because we know they can handle it. Kids are pretty smart and even they do it. Even at that age.