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Things are changing around here.

By | 20 Comments | Published: August 20, 2012

 

 

I have had time to think.  Some things have become clear to me.

Some strong, clear and simple words from me.

1. I will be now taking scheduled breaks a lot more often.  If I fall apart i’m not going to useful to ANYONE

2. I will only re-post questions that are messaged to the page. I won’t be reposting the questions on the wall, unless I feel it has been missed and the questioner needs more answers.

3. I will delete threads as soon as they become septic.

4. I will no longer repost questions that I feel may become septic.

5. Community First. Every Time.

6. I will ban people straight away, I’m taking a more hardline approach on this. – Abide by the code or you’re banned. SIMPLE!

7. I will go with my gut – I can no longer listen to what everyone thinks all of the time as it’s way too draining.

8. There is ALWAYS a diplomatic way to say ANYTHING.  Type, put yourself in the questioners shoes, read and k Keep if you feel that it is advice that can be used. DELETE if you feel it may be taken wrong.

9. I will no longer deal with arguments, AT ALL. We are all passionate about certain subjects however if what your about to say is not going to have a positive impact on our community make sure you just keep on scrolling.

And I have two favours to ask of you.

1.Please either message the page and tell me if someone is being out of line OR simply ignore them. Sometimes people just like to have their 5 minutes of fame.  Sad I know.

2. Please read the question properly and answer the actual question rather than giving your opinion on it.  Unless of course they are asking for your opinion.

“Anyone can criticize or condemn, It takes a bigger person to act with compassion and empathy. The moment a human feels understood, their burdens lifts. And that is the moment change occurs”.                                                                                              - Kristy Vallely The Imperfect Mum”

 

Thanks GIRLS – Love and cherish you all! we just need to be on the same page.

RESPECT, FAIRNESS, COMPASSION and EMPATHY. – That’s what this sisterhood is about. X

 

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  • Catherine Harding

    Awesome!!! Good for you!

  • http://www.facebook.com/fifi.mulvaney Fiona Mulvaney

    Well said Kristy, I love your page!

  • http://twitter.com/KukuCouture Kuku Couture

    good plan

  • Fi @ My Mummy Daze

    Beautiful Kristy, I’m behind you 100% percent. You have grown an amazing community and you should be so proud of yourself. Keep following your gut xxx Fi

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    Ohh Thank you my beautiful, was just thinking about you this morning,will call you later in the week. X

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    Thanks Darlin X

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    Thanks Fiona XX

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    Hey darlin, Thank YOU XX

  • Jackie @ Mummy in Disguise

    I’m down with that Kristy:)

  • Alana

    Here’s to a fresh start on IM. Your page is fantastic x

  • http://twitter.com/themodernparent Martine

    You are so wise my friend x

  • http://www.facebook.com/catherine.abel.14 Catherine Abel

    Have always observed your page from the sidelines with many tears and smiles ( and quite a few chuckles). You are making the world a better place for your presence , both in your own little corner and on a larger scale. Be proud of what you do for the world and your family. xxx

  • Rachael Sharp

    Brilliant direction Kristy! I love that you have been able to refocus & keep powering on. It takes real vision to do what you’re doing & I for one am very inspired by you! xx

  • Susan Morris

    I really do know how you feel. I ran a mothers group in WA when my children were small and it seemed no matter what we chose to discuss each week, someone decided to either break the confidentiality code or ‘go postal’ over some issue that in no way concerned them. After 18 months I had to close the group. It was the first of its kind in a male dominated mining town, and I even attracted a tiny government grant however; my own health suffered and in turn my children (3 under 5 years) suffered and so did my marriage. I was only 23 at the time, and these days I would do things differently and a lot like you have Kristy. I’m now a grandmother, a Registered Nurse with extensive experience in DV, counselling and education and try my best to use my experience to help others on your wonderful page. What you have here is wonderful and a huge resource for parents. Don’t let it ruin the person you are. Your pretty awesome you know!!!

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    Ohhh Susan – wow! – You’re now a grandmother. How beautiful. My Mum loves being a grandma. Yes, I’m definitely putting some boundaries in place. Thanks for your wise words. XX

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    I love having you as my friend and staunch supporter Rach. Love ya! X

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    What a compliment. Thanks so much. I really appreciate your words. XX

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    Why Thank You beautiful one. XX

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    Yep, fresh start is what we need. Thanks alana xx

  • http://www.theimperfectmum.com.au/ The Imperfect Mum

    Thanks Jackie XXX