Our guests are paying for their own meal at our wedding. It is under $50 not including drinks which we will pay for. There is also no one invited under the age of 13. ALL OF OUR GUESTS are aware of this and are happy to pay. I have also been to weddings where this was the case and had a fabulous time. I think the wishing well idea, etc is pointless as we tried that for our engagement party and ended up with so much useless stuff, like over 100 wine glasses, and no vouchers/ money for stuff we really needed. We also been living together for several years and have children.
Im after some nice phrases or quotes to insert in with the invites to say that in lieu of gifts we would appreciate payment of their meal. I have googled and haven't come up with anything that tickles my fancy.