My husband and I are thinking about having another baby - which means we would have two under two. Can other mummy's out there share their experience of how they have managed in similar situations - both good and bad points? Thanks ?
My husband and I are thinking about having another baby - which means we would have two under two. Can other mummy's out there share their experience of how they have managed in similar situations - both good and bad points? Thanks ?
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My personal advice, if you don't have the concern of your age to worry about then wait so that your eldest is closer to 3. Two under 2 will most likely mean you are getting up to two babies in the middle of the night. Plus trying to feed one newborn while you still have a very dependent baby is extremely challenging. A child closer to 3 is a lot more independent, is most likely toilet training and sleep is a bit more settled.
Of course if you have no other choice you get through it. But bloody hell it's a hard work, I've watched couples break and at the moment I'm thinking your baby is very young and you haven't experienced a 12month old baby and how much supervision they need!
We have 2 littlies who are 14.5 months apart, owing to little miss arriving 2 months early. So add the complications of a preemie and yes it was hard work. I don't think anyone same under the sun would say otherwise and you probably already know it will be. They do fight too (boy and girl) and little miss thinks she can do everything her brother can even though she is slightly developmentally behind because of the age gap. I did get up to 2 babies overnight and breastfed and blah blah blah.
However, on the plus side, they are also best friends, play together, are now both pretty independent on playgrounds together and we will only have a year juggling school and daycare (unless we have a number 3). They get along with kids the same age and it works. At times I wish I had more time to enjoy each of them separately as babies more. However, at the end of the day it is what it is. There is good and there is difficult. I think that happens however big the age gap. Hubby and his sister are also 15 months apart and they are best friends now as adults. Much more so than my brother and I who are nearly 4 years apart.
I also agree that you haven't seen how a 12 month old baby is, they are hard work. We also only had a lovely EASY 6 month old when we decided to go for number 2. I tend to agree with previous post, an age gap with 2 under 3 is probably a little easier, but at the end of the day, do what you feel is in your heart and you will find a way to manage.
Best of luck!
I have an 18 month gap between 1 and 2 and then a 21month gap between 2 and 3.
Its hard work being pregnant and running around after an active toddler! But both mine were sleeping through by the time the next was born so that helped. Both of the older 2 stopled napping right before 3 was born so days are pretty full on now! Haha.
I now have a almost 4 (december) , 2.5 year old and a 7month old. Wouldn'tchange it for the world. Love having them close!
I have an 18 month gap between 1 and 2 and then a 21month gap between 2 and 3.
Its hard work being pregnant and running around after an active toddler! But both mine were sleeping through by the time the next was born so that helped. Both of the older 2 stopled napping right before 3 was born so days are pretty full on now! Haha.
I now have a almost 4 (december) , 2.5 year old and a 7month old. Wouldn'tchange it for the world. Love having them close!