Feeling a little down of late, divorced a very toxic man of 15 years and feel
So alone and like I will be single for ever.
Tell me some positive stories of finding love after toxic relationships. I feel my
Options are so limited where i live, and I can’t move.
I know I deserve better and more but can’t shake a feeling of unworthiness too.
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Just wanting to say - you’ve got this. You will get through this and find happiness . This is just a temporary feeling . In the mean time try joining a new club or find a new hobbie to connect with others x
Thank you, I do feel really empty,lonely and low about the whole situations I don’t want people to look at me as broken goods,
Hey there. I was with my toxic ex for 14 years and he destroyed my self-worth and confidence.
I spent some time learning to be okay with me. I did not have to love myself, just learn to accept me as being enough. I set challenges for myself and being a massive introvert this was terrifying. So went to a health talk, went to a show.. I termed it 'dating myself'. My confidence and self worth improved. I knew if I did not do this first, I was likely to attract the same sort of man.
I met my now partner online after dating a few frogs. I was hesitant to get into another relationship. He changed all of that. I have now been with him for over six years and he is the complete opposite of my ex and all that is toxic. He is so supportive and there are times I want to cry because it's everything I was missing all those years. I still ensure I am not dependent upon him for my own self worth etc. but I know I do not have to worry anymore.
Learn to be okay with you first and then you will attract those that see your worth <3
I think you mean hopeless romantic 😀
I left a toxic dv relationship after 15 years and 4 kids and honestly never imagined I'd find someone. I had moments of being ok with being alone and moments of pure heart ache that I'd die alone. It is completely natural either way. But then after losing my Mum suddenly, my best friend, my person, I had to find myself again. I spent months working on myself, grieving, learning to live a life without the most important person in my life and I was sure as hell not looking for love. So when a new guy started at work, we got to know each other purely as friends. Spent months pouring our hearts out, growing, building each other up and then when he finally told me he liked me I realised I really liked him too and we've been together almost a year and it's everything I know I deserve. We've had our ups and downs, I had to work through the fact that he wasn't my ex, he had trust issues from his ex he had to work through, but we've worked through it all together. While it seems impossible now, just know that you will find someone when the time is right. When you are healed or at least on your way. It won't be perfect to begin with, but if it's worth it you'll know. Good luck Mumma x