My 10yr old daughter has 1best friend and no other close friends.
Her best friend is very important to her and she will do anything for her! The problem is that the bf is very controlling...she won't let my girl have any other friends...says my girl is a spoilt brat (which she is far from! I Bargen shop at op shops 😂) today over snap when my girl had to clean her room the bf said "that's why I hate your family!"she went into detale about how I was bossy, mean ECT...my daughter apologises and asked if they were still BFFs! I was so up set that she didn't stick up for us! How can I encourage my girl to make more friends? I'm not banning this friendship...I just want her to have more friends that aren't so controlling???
Help with my 10yr old girl
Help with my 10yr old girl
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That friendship is toxic so as her parent it's OK to step in and scale it right back. If you wouldnt be OK with a future boyfriend treating her like this then it's not OK for anyone else to. Teach your daughter what boundaries are and how to recognise toxic people.
My daughter had a friend like this. I’ve cut her out of my daughters life now and told my daughter that we never let anyone bribe us, manipulate us or control us. She would do this, to make my daughter feel bad for doing things other than she wanted. We are who we are and we never change. We have nothing more to do with this girl.
I've always felt that developing who we are around friendship groups is something a child needs to develop separately from parents but this pwaaaarrrrrrrr I would have lost it!! How disrespectful!! Little so and so!!
Perfect opportunity on your half to teach her self respect, family respect, boundaries and what to do in situations like that, great learning curve but in the same sense deffinately would speak to that girls mother about this.
My daughter is also 10 but I dont allow her on those kinds of apps as yet, i feel she needs to be a kid before being open to that part of life. The app i do allow her on is Facebook kids messanger which is attached to my Facebook, I can see everything and she knows we have to build up that trust to be autonomous online or on those apps.
Firstly it is not ok that this child is segregating your child from others that itself is a form of abuse. Your child needs to know their worth and spend time with other children her age maybe in a form of sports group or an art class. I would also be deleting snap chat they are too young to be using an app like that. Imagine if this child bullies your child into sharing an inappropriate photo not saying it will happen but what then. Social media at this age is so damaging. The bullying starts earlier and it is so damaging.
Why does your child have Snapchat at 10 years old? As a teacher I see some really disgusting and disturbing things through social media. You need to stop access to this immediately.
Secondly she’s 10, she’s not going to stick up for her family but you can role play with her how to stand up for herself and give her the words to say when her friend says things.