I have this neighbour and his a creep. His always given me this weird vibe that I just can't shake but now its to a point im scared to even leave my own home. He has 2 wives at home and like 12 children, I moved in here a few years ago and from the first day he came over to sus put my situation while we were unloading the truck. Now he shows up at my door and tries to come inside thankfully my dog won't let that happen. But the other day I went to go bring my bins in and check the mail, he ran across the road to talk to me. In this conversation he said he liked my figure and tried to place his hand on my side, I moved back away from him onto the other side of the bin, he then proceeded to say that im single and if I need anything all I have to do is invite him in with this disgusting grin on his face that was it for me I left the bin and walked off inside locking the door behind me. This was the forest his ever tried and its now made me feel so uneasy I no longer pick my kids up from school where I usually do as he is there, I try to avoid being outside because when I do he is there and now that's affecting my kids, I cant open the blinds to my home because his there knocking on the window. Im at my whitts end and I dont know what to do. He is I assume Muslim and I understand multiple wives are his culture but this is too far and I have never once showed him an ounce of Interest but he wont leave me alone. My parents are at a point their gunna go knock on his door but I feel that may make the situation worse. I just don't know what to do... help please
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Get a restraining order against him!
Oh that's gross.
I agree, I think restraint order is probably the easiest to go.
He’s a pig and he can go live back in his culture! this is not on and you need to report that he put his hands on you and get an avo on this man asap! Who does he think he is. Religion and culture is no excuse! This is not acceptable and he will go further so protect your self now and report this to the police! my Family member is with a Muslim and again 2 wives, 2 separate centrelink single parent payments and he is a creep too. put a stop to it, because he won’t! He will play dumb and I not understand English. What he did was assault. Assuming he could touch you. Yuk avo asap
Do not knock on his door. You let the point handle this with stalking chargers, an avo and assault. Go and place a report now. Chances are they know him. This man will not stop. Don’t allow your parents to go there, the police must handle it.
Police
If he approaches you and is creepy again, I would tell him to fk right off. If he knocks on your door, tell him that he makes you uncomfortable and is not to enter your property ever again. And document it all. Write down every date and time, and the exact conversation / actions you recall.
You will need to do these things if you do apply for a restraining order. You do actually have to show that you have tried to resolve the problem first,same as all civil disputes. The court doesn't just throw them around like confetti.
Him coming to your door is 100% fine, unless you have told him otherwise.
You could write a letter and put it in his mailbox (if you're brave enough) explaining that he makes you uncomfortable and that he is not allowed to approach you or your property. And keep a copy for your records.
I'd call the police non emergency line next time he badgers you or encroaches on your property/personal space.
Explain to them that he doesn't seem to grasp normal neighbourly boundaries and that he scares you, they'll come out and have a chat with him.
A stern word from the cops might be all that's needed to de-escalate the situation but if it's not and it gets to the point you feel you might need to take legal action, you have some tangible evidence on your side.
I'd also recommend getting some security cameras and one of them doorbell cameras, you can pick them up reasonably priced these days.
Don't let fear hold you to ransom.
Be blunt and assertive.
"I find your demeanour and behaviour creepy, do not approach my yard, do not approach my family in our yard or in public, do not come into my property when I am not here. Stay in your own property. Everytime you try to approach me, or enter my private property the police will be called."
Put up security cameras.
He doesn't get a free pass regardless of his culture. He chose to live in Australia so he can abide by the rules of society or fuck back off.
If he’s acting like that, he’s Muslim in name only. Those actions are beyond disgusting and totally prohibited in Islam.
I’m really sorry he’s essentially stalking you in your own home. Tell him really firmly not to communicate with you at all or you will call the police. If you’re unable to verbalise that yourself, ask the police to warn him. He’s essentially stalking you!
Go outside and let him come towards you (make sure you have someone inside watching, but don’t let them come out unless necessary, so he thinks you’re alone. Have a thumbs up as a signal for intervention.)
Have your phone in your hand and set to 000.
Say ‘stay the fuck away from me. Stay off my property or I will be calling the police (show 000). If you EVER come on my property again, I will be getting you charged with trespassing and getting a restraining order placed on you.’
It might just scare him enough.
Get some security cameras installed if you can, too.
Or, you could just go straight to the police.
I would move house. If you are unable to move, I would be putting security cameras and sensor lights up everywhere.
I am sorry you have to deal with this creep. This is no way for you to live. Do you have any other neighbours? Can you talk to them? Maybe if a few of you get together and report him to the police, it may stop him or make him think before he approaches you again
Not sure how is religion is at all relevant. Firmly tell him to leave you alone. If not then take it further
What a creep
Report to police they may be able to assist
He does not have a right to treat anyone this way