My ex husband had a massive child support bill about 50 grand and my 2 children to him are 19 and 17 with 6 months to go before turning 18. I don’t want his child support anymore and want the debt to just go away as we are in good terms now and I am proud to have raised those boys on my own. My question is how do I get child support to wipe the debt without it going towards my income cause that will effect my family tax benefit at the end of the year. If i tell them he paid me it all it goes down as income for me. When my youngest turns 18 does my family tax benefit stop anyway so doesn’t matter what I’ve earnt.
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We got a massive payout when my ex finally put his tax returns in after my son was 18. I put it in an account for him and was a good step up for life.
Your kids could probably use that money as adults.
It will go against the years he owed you. So if he was meant to pay Cs from 2016 to 2022, those are the years that get affected when he pays it, even if it's 10 years from now. However if that was the assessment at the time and it hasn't changed you will probably find you've already been paid FTB as though you received CSA even if he wasn't paying it. So you would have already received a reduced income for his Cs, so you won't owe anything when it's paid.
My ex decided to work out a way to stop paying Cs. It worked for 3 years. Those 3 years were hell for my young teenage kids, they went without a lot. We had power cut off twice, I couldn't afford WiFi and often had to take my kids to use free WiFi for homework, so doing homework in the car on the side of the street. I was battling to find full time employment as I had just moved to a new area. So when the ato finally caught up with him and worked out his real income, CSA decided he owed me 30k. I felt not one bit of sympathy for him. He gave zero care for his own kids situation during that time. I think it's what you need to do, have a think about what your kids missed out on while he wasn't paying and also while he was absent. If you don't want to receive it for yourself then maybe he could help the kids out in some way, first cars, courses, heavy vehicle licenses, holiday.
Definitely do not cop a financial loss to let him off just to ‘get on well and make it easy now’ you can get on well and he can still pay the debt he owes his kids. And it doesn’t have to be any stress to you, it’s not your business if he sorts out his debt or not, your concern is that it doesn’t negatively impact you any more than it already has.
I wouldn't write it off. That's your kids' money, that he has avoided paying for years.
And please do not lie & say he paid it. That could legally bite you later, not just with this, but anything legal if they discover you lied.
Just leave it. He deserves to pay & you can give your kids the step up & extra opportunities they didn't get because he deliberately didn't pay. If he's mentioned this idea to you then definitely ignore. Tell him you can't & all money will go straight to your kids.
You should definitely be proud of doing it alone though!
Yes if your child finishes school this year ftb will stop on the 31st Dec.
No right or wrong answer here do what you are comfortable with but personally I wouldn’t be happy to cop any loss if I wiped the debt. A first car for them or uni fees paid would give them a great start depending how mature they are… personal choice really 🤷♀️ I get $37.77 in child support a month though so really wouldn’t miss it…
Damn girl, get that child support. Every last damn cent of it. That's you'd kids money. Don't Rip them off what is owed
Collect that shit for your kids. Do they need a car or money towards their future uni debts. Even a house deposit.
You can request the case be closed and removed from child support but I’m not sure what happens with the debt.