Im a survivor

Anonymous

Im a survivor

Im bloody doing it. It's only just hit me but I'm actually doing it. I've been full time single/working mum for a while now. My son is 6. I didn't go back to work for a few years as I just wanted to spend as much time with him as I could. I didn't want to miss a thing. I've had him for 6 years no child support no father support since the day I left him when I was 18 weeks pregnant. I'm almost 30 and on my own. I've gathered a carrier and a life I love. I love my self, I love my life. I escaped such abuse, physical, mental, financial, sexual etc that should have destroyed me but it made me so strong and empowered as a women.
I met a man on my journey that again was abusive (controlling and manipulative) but I got through that too in time. I have been told that will happen after you are in an abusive relationship you will get a few more abusive men each one being less abusive than the other but im okay with that now. I know that will just be part of my story. One more will be less than the last and hopefully the next will be all okay. But right now I'm so happy being independent.
Its been a long road but I've gotten out of the debt. I now have 40k sitting in the bank after having absolutely nothing to my name. Nothing to my life except a beautiful child I was carrying, I was homeless, lost and confused. Im and wanting to buy a house now.. My dream since I was a kid. I just don't know how or when. I have a broker but I'm still confused. I'm hoping the market goes down in the next year or two.
But I'm doing it. I have money (not much but enough) I have a car. I have a roof for me and my boy's head. He has a good school. We have a bond that is unbreakable. Im hoping to study in 2023 and go even further.
I don't have family to share this with but my parents who have been a great emotional suport who look after my boy so I can work, (school drop offs and pick up) So I thought I would share some of my story here. I'm hoping I can hear some other survivor stories here and see how amazing us women are.
I have a health issue that leave me crippled some days but I always make sure I get out of bed and push through, that I get my son dressed and ready for school. That I get to work despite the pain to get us the money for out future. Because no matter what, pain mentally or physically I will get up and show up. Being abused has shown me how much this world actually has to offer. How much light there is at the end of the tunnel. Us women are like no other living being on this earth.

Posted in:  Mental Health, Self Care, Loss & Grief, Sisterhood Stories, Health & Wellbeing

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Anonymous

Good for you!

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Anonymous

This is beautiful! Well done to you and your hard work and perseverance. Thank you for sharing x

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Anonymous

Love reading this. Go you! Showing your son what a real hero is and that he too can conquer anything in life and be amazing just like his mum.

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Anonymous

I love this!!!!
I came from an abusive relationship, completely lost everything! 10 years later I own my own home, married the dream guy, have a beautiful family and am about to do what I always thought was impossible, graduate from university!

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