I'll keep it short.
How do you know when its time to seperate?
Firstly, No, we're not throwing this away, we love each other and have worked our arses off to make it work but nothing ever changes.
We have had the same financial issues for 15 years that never change no matter what.
We've recently changed back to having our own accounts rather then joint accounts to try see if that will make a difference by, big surprise, it hasn't. I'm slightly better off, hes a long way worse.
It has come up in discussion if seperating would be better in the long run as the kids are starting to suffer, they miss out on things and they now see and feel the money tension.
I know being a single mum is hard, I do and I've raised the kids all but alone with him being a FIFO worker (not the same as single I know) but neither of us want the kids future to suffer caus of our choices and honestly, I can unfortunately see how it might benefit us if we were seperated.
Help! This sucks about as much as adulting!!