My miscarriage issues

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My miscarriage issues

Hi everyone.
Seven years ago I suffered a miscarriage and it nearly destroyed me. I was a mess. Through time and counselling and giving birth to a beautiful little girl a year later I thought I was doing well. Until a few weeks ago when my sister told me she was pregnant with her first child. I am SO excited i cannot wait to be an auntie my sister and I are really close and I’m so happy for her. But here is my problem, all the feelings from my miscarriage have come rushing back and I’m absolutely TERRIFIED for her. Im near killing myself making sure she doesn’t catch on to these feelings because she does not need or deserve to deal with my issues in what should be the happiest time of her life.
I don’t even know what I’m asking to be honest. I think I just needed to get it off my chest

Posted in:  Loss & Grief, Pregnancy

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Anonymous

I think, if anything, look after yourself.

If that means reconnecting with a mental health plan, you might find benefit from that.

Enjoy your next chapter as an aunt and enjoy the milestones. Hugs

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Anonymous

Honestly i have not had a miscarriage, and I feel the same way whenever someone i love falls pregnant.

I guess I dont have any advise other than to say you aren't alone in feeling this way! But on the bright side I am everyone's favourite aunty because i put so much love and time into my nieces and nephews. I bet you are going to love that wee bundle so much!
Keep doing what you are doing by keeping those feelings away from your sister, and get some professional help xo

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