My six year old son just randomly said "Everyone in my class said you are fat". My son then looked me in the eye and said "But I don't think you are, are you?".
The fact is, I am. I have five children aged 18, 16, 13, 10 and 6. All of them always want me at their sports and other school events. They have never once been embarrassed by my weight. Even my 16 year old son, frequently askes for use to go out for lunches and dinners. All my children are sporty and all of very healthy weights. My weight is a result of loneliness and a dodgy thyroid and other auto immune issues. But this comment from a class of grade 1 kids, has made me realise that I need to work on getting my weight down. The last thing I'd want is for them to be bullied by having a fat mum or to feel embarrassed about me.
I just wanted to have a rant. Would love to hear others weight loss achievements.(Weight loss surgery is not an option) I have 20kg to lose. I've done it before. I can do it again.
Also, thank you grade 1 kids. You've given me the motivation to help lol 🙂😉
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You poor mum. I wouldn’t take it to heart, little kids say these things without realising sometimes . If you want to lose weight, do a daily big walk, cut out sugar, fats etc and eat things like salmon and steamed veggies, or chicken with veggies etc. and healthy salads. You have enough to deal with with illness but you might feel better once you stick to a strict diet. Start off with small walks the increase it to bigger walks each day. PT session now and then helps and a local women’s gym.
Oh I'm not offended by it. It's true and in all honesty. I need to hear it. I just feel so bad for my son. Must of made him feel awkward.
It doesn’t matter though if you feel that it is true, this kid shouldn’t have said it. If it wasn’t you, it would be someone else. If it wasn’t fat, it would be something else. You need to explain to your son, that the boy is rude and no one should ever speak like this about anyone. you do what you have to, in losing weight but don’t let this slip by like you deserved it because you didn’t. The kid has no manners.
Don’t feel bad for your son, be doesn’t care about your weight. He cares about his mum; he doesnt see anything other than his beautiful mum. It’s the other kid who is making this an issue and he needs to be pulled up on it. you son doesn’t need to hear kids speak like this.
Working with grade 1s sure has thickened my skin! In saying that, this is not something thats ok. Please speak to your teacher who can talk to the kids because we dont comment on peoples bodies, its rude, and mean and I bet made your poor son feel sad. Id also say thats the reason hes told you. Make sure you also tell him.those kids are rude to comment on peoples size and he can say Stop, thats not nice or tell a teacher.
I feel so bad for him. It must of made him feel awkward. It's the second time he has mentioned it. A boy asked him last year, why is your mum fat.
I haven't been at the school for ages, as my kids walk to the car after school. So I assume it may of been said a month ago when I did parent help.
Just remember this is about them. If it wasnt fat they would choose something else. The point here is that what they said is rude and mean. I hope you tell the teacher for him. Model to him that theyre in the wrong.
I totally agree with this. If my kids ever said that some one was fat, I would make them apologise or they would get consequences. My kids do know better than to do that but some kids don’t and it all starts at home.
Aww that would have been hard to hear :(
Last year I was 20 kilos heavier. I lost weight by counting my calories! It has really improved my health and self esteem.
100% calorie deficit! As long as you’re in a deficit you’ll lose weight. look up a calorie calculator, and use apps like my fitness pal to track your food/calories. You’ll be surprised how much you over eat.
Ketogenic. I lost 28 kilos over 9 months and am a size 8. I still eat the keto way to this day 10 years later.
My husband lost 50 kilos on keto too in 18 months 10 years ago and has also maintained his weight to this day too. You can do it !!
You can do it!! I lost 20kg in 5 months last year and have stabilised this year. Happy to send you my diet but warning it’s basic, very strict and I hated it for a long time. The good news is it’s cheap and with 10 k steps per day it works.
Sometimes we need the snide comment or bad photo to kick us in the arse.
Can you post your diet here? I'm fat too and need help :(
I am in no position to give you weight loss tips having quite a bit of weight to shift myself but I'm glad you have taken this as motivation and it seems like losing weight is something you want to do for you so I wish you all the best with it.
This is still something I think needs to be taken up with your son's teacher though. 6-7 year olds who arent pulled up for saying inappropriate things about other's appearances turn into teens and adults who think it's okay to make remarks about the way people look.
And if the kids are making fat comments about parents/adults, they're likely directing them at students too. A kid won't take fat comments as a bit of brutal but helpful honesty, a kid is just going to be hurt. So I really do think it is worthwhile making the teacher aware of it.
I've lost nearly 20kgs since the end of January this year doing WW.