Question/ bit of a rant too
How can I get around attitude and sneaking around that my partner does? He hides things from me and then when asked about it says never u mind and has attitude in his voice when saying it. He can never just have a normal conversation without attitude with his response. I have got to the point I never want to be here or be around him but I can’t leave cause off having my daughter with anxiety. My brother wants me to move in with him but I can’t cause that’s hours drive away from my children and I don’t want to be to fare away from them. It’s like really bad to the point I cry most of the time cause I don’t want to be here and when I am away I am happy and enjoy life and when it’s time to come home my depression kicks in and I feel down and not want to do anything or go anywhere cause I know I have to home to put up with him and his attitude and his hiding stuff. Like I found him paying to talk to females online I questioned him about it and he says cause I won’t talk to him and I said well I can’t cause every time I do I get yelling shacking of the head and moving arms and hands around and he says it’s cause u do it and I am like no I did nothing but asked u a question and I get spoken to like I am nobody please can I only get positive comments and not nasty ones I am at a point I do wont to be here anymore the only thing that is keeping me here is cause of my kids I can’t let them live without there mother. I have been told I need to get away from the dv but it’s so hard how do u do it or get support when ur family close by won’t help or make things worse for u. Sorry it’s so long but I have come to a point I don’t know what to do no more.
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Why do you think you can't take your kids? If your child has anxiety then living with that kind of tension all the time isn't going to help. If you know you've had enough and want to leave then take your kids with you. I'm sure your brother wouldnt have offered for you to live with him if he wasn't worried about you. Take the offer and get out of there x
You have answered your own question here. You say you are happiest when you are away. So make this permanent and move to where your brother is and stop making excuses for not making it happen. You are your kids health and happiness comes first. Go and be there where you are happiest, because if you don’t move now, your kids won’t have a mother. They need you and you need them. It’s ok to put yourself first! Do this for yourself. You get one life and you need to be happy in it and make the list of it. Don’t let him bring you down like this. Pack your stuff. If you can’t do this put an avo on him and have him removed. There is ways out of this. No excuses and you need to be strong and push ahead with making a happier and better life for you and your kids. Living there is probably causing your child anxiety. Get your daughter to a child paychologist. Her anxiety will probably ease when you get away from there. Protect yourself and yours kids now. Once you leave you won’t look back, you’ll be happier than ever. Good luck and stay strong. You can do this!
Sorry but not as simple as take my kids and go when my kids don’t live with me sorry I didn’t want to go in to detail with what’s going with the kids
That's a bit confusing then, the post sounds like they live with you.
If they don't live with you but live in the area then maybe you could leave to your brothers house while you try and find a rental and job back in that area? I know it's not ideal, but neither is living there if you don't want to be there.
Oh ok